Dear Miss Pearl,
My older sister is engaged to Kendrick, a man that I introduced her to. He and I dated briefly for a couple of months before I moved to St. Louis. After I had been gone for about a year, I came home and ran into Kendrick while I was out with my sister. She asked me who he was and I told her that he was just a good friend. I didn’t tell her that we had been hooking up because I had a boyfriend while Kendrick and I were together.
My sister asked me to hook her up and, since I was living in St. Louis I didn’t see the harm even though I still kinda felt a little something for him. Well, eventually I moved back home and my sister and Kendrick were in a full fledged relationship. I thought that by me being out of town, all of my feelings for him would be gone by now but they aren’t.
Kendrick and my sister are getting married in June and I’m supposed to be in the wedding but recently, I was riding in the car with him and he started hitting on me, then he touched me on my leg and I realized how much I still wanted to get with him. I have tried to tell him that I can’t do that to my sister but we kissed about a week ago and now I don’t know what to do.
On one hand, he’s my sisters fiance’, but on another, he was with me first. Should I tell my sister that I was with him first, or should I just leave well enough alone and hope that my feelings for him go away? He is definitely not trying to make this easy for me by continuing to touch me when we are alone. What should I do about this? I don’t want my sister marrying a man who is going to cheat on her, but he says that right now he is single, and he only wants to hook up with me before he gets married, then he will be faithful.
Please help,
Sister Souljah
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Dear Sister,
I’m very surprised that your sister allows you to be alone in a room with her man in the first place, (because you know your family knows if don’t nobody else know when you ain’t $hit) and I can’t see how she doesn’t already know that her sister is a weak, ignorant, classless, low-rate hoe to begin with.
Now, don’t get me wrong Dear, Sweet, Susta. I definitely understand why you didn’t feel the need to tell your sister that you and Kendrick were having relations in the beginning, (honestly, it wasn’t her business) but once she expressed an interest in him, you should have felt obligated to open your gat damn mouth and tell her exactly what your association with this “friend” really was.
What you’ve done by keeping this secret is have your sister fall blindly in love with, and then get engaged to, a man who not only has SLEPT with her sister on several occasions and still TRYING to sleep with her, but worse than that, she has a SISTER who is actually considering that bullshit! Bitch, you are going to rot in hell! Number one, if you and this man are going to continue to keep your secret and you still feel tickly twat when he touches your thigh, then you should avoid him at all cost.
The only person who needs my advice right now is your sister and to her I say, “cut your losses and let that no-good, half –assed, sorry excuse for a man go while you still have time to get your life back. Then you need to have a meeting with your sister, call her over, pour the both of you a cup of tea and as soon as that b*tch sits down – throw it in her face!
There are too many men out there for you to be pining after the man your sister is engaged to, and if you gave a shit about her, a) you wouldn’t be letting her marry a man who is going INTO the marriage being triflin’ b) you wouldn’t continue to keep this secret from her c) you wouldn’t be seeking a “pass” to do the unthinkable in sleeping with your sisters man
Are you insane to honestly believe that this man only wants to sleep with you while he’s “single” – that’s his excuse to get some ass from a dumbass who obviously looking for an excuse to fall for it.
If he ain’t being faithful as her MAN… he won’t be faithful as her HUSBAND! Allegiance in relationships comes with a promise and an understanding to remain faithful… he’ll be putting a RING on his finger – not a magic wand. So, who he is today, is who he will be tomorrow.
Tell your sister that you slept with her man, allow her to make the decision if a man who slept with her sister is someone she wants to MARRY and forget about this sick “attraction” you have to him – it ain’t worth it, HE ain’t worth it.
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to misspearlswindow@yahoo.com
My older sister is engaged to Kendrick, a man that I introduced her to. He and I dated briefly for a couple of months before I moved to St. Louis. After I had been gone for about a year, I came home and ran into Kendrick while I was out with my sister. She asked me who he was and I told her that he was just a good friend. I didn’t tell her that we had been hooking up because I had a boyfriend while Kendrick and I were together.
My sister asked me to hook her up and, since I was living in St. Louis I didn’t see the harm even though I still kinda felt a little something for him. Well, eventually I moved back home and my sister and Kendrick were in a full fledged relationship. I thought that by me being out of town, all of my feelings for him would be gone by now but they aren’t.
Kendrick and my sister are getting married in June and I’m supposed to be in the wedding but recently, I was riding in the car with him and he started hitting on me, then he touched me on my leg and I realized how much I still wanted to get with him. I have tried to tell him that I can’t do that to my sister but we kissed about a week ago and now I don’t know what to do.
On one hand, he’s my sisters fiance’, but on another, he was with me first. Should I tell my sister that I was with him first, or should I just leave well enough alone and hope that my feelings for him go away? He is definitely not trying to make this easy for me by continuing to touch me when we are alone. What should I do about this? I don’t want my sister marrying a man who is going to cheat on her, but he says that right now he is single, and he only wants to hook up with me before he gets married, then he will be faithful.
Please help,
Sister Souljah
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Dear Sister,
I’m very surprised that your sister allows you to be alone in a room with her man in the first place, (because you know your family knows if don’t nobody else know when you ain’t $hit) and I can’t see how she doesn’t already know that her sister is a weak, ignorant, classless, low-rate hoe to begin with.
Now, don’t get me wrong Dear, Sweet, Susta. I definitely understand why you didn’t feel the need to tell your sister that you and Kendrick were having relations in the beginning, (honestly, it wasn’t her business) but once she expressed an interest in him, you should have felt obligated to open your gat damn mouth and tell her exactly what your association with this “friend” really was.
What you’ve done by keeping this secret is have your sister fall blindly in love with, and then get engaged to, a man who not only has SLEPT with her sister on several occasions and still TRYING to sleep with her, but worse than that, she has a SISTER who is actually considering that bullshit! Bitch, you are going to rot in hell! Number one, if you and this man are going to continue to keep your secret and you still feel tickly twat when he touches your thigh, then you should avoid him at all cost.
The only person who needs my advice right now is your sister and to her I say, “cut your losses and let that no-good, half –assed, sorry excuse for a man go while you still have time to get your life back. Then you need to have a meeting with your sister, call her over, pour the both of you a cup of tea and as soon as that b*tch sits down – throw it in her face!
There are too many men out there for you to be pining after the man your sister is engaged to, and if you gave a shit about her, a) you wouldn’t be letting her marry a man who is going INTO the marriage being triflin’ b) you wouldn’t continue to keep this secret from her c) you wouldn’t be seeking a “pass” to do the unthinkable in sleeping with your sisters man
Are you insane to honestly believe that this man only wants to sleep with you while he’s “single” – that’s his excuse to get some ass from a dumbass who obviously looking for an excuse to fall for it.
If he ain’t being faithful as her MAN… he won’t be faithful as her HUSBAND! Allegiance in relationships comes with a promise and an understanding to remain faithful… he’ll be putting a RING on his finger – not a magic wand. So, who he is today, is who he will be tomorrow.
Tell your sister that you slept with her man, allow her to make the decision if a man who slept with her sister is someone she wants to MARRY and forget about this sick “attraction” you have to him – it ain’t worth it, HE ain’t worth it.
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to misspearlswindow@yahoo.com
