Pearl's Window

MIAMI (AP) -- Police have detained at least three people in the Fort Myers area for questioning in the death of Washington Redskins football star Sean Taylor.
A law enforcement official in Lee County confirmed the men from the Fort Myers area were in custody, but requested anonymity because the investigation is being handled by Miami-Dade County police.

Miami-Dade police Detective Carlos Maura said he was not aware of anyone in custody. He said only that detectives were in the Fort Myers area for a case, but declined to say which one.
The Miami Herald, which first reported the development on its Web site, said investigators believe three suspects learned of Taylor's house through someone who unwittingly set up the burglary by bragging about his wealth.

The suspects include two teenagers and a man in his 20s, all from the Fort Myers area, the paper reported. A telephone message left at the Florida City Police Department for Taylor's father, Chief Pedro Taylor, was not immediately returned.

Richard Sharpstein, a former Taylor lawyer and family friend, said: "It looks like the police are pursuing extremely good leads. It appears that the burglary was exactly as I've always stated, not random, that Sean's house was targeted."

Evidence at Taylor's home indicated one or more intruders barged into the house early Monday in an attempted burglary, Miami-Dade police director Robert Parker said Wednesday. After a confrontation inside the home, Taylor was shot once in the upper leg and died early Tuesday after losing a tremendous amount of blood.

Taylor's family has scheduled a funeral service for 11 a.m. Monday at Pharmed Arena at Florida International University in Miami.

Mannie Fresh's sister, Angela Bryant, was shot and killed Wednesday night in her New Orleans home, according to local TV affiliate WWLTV. Police reportedly said the 42-year-old mother's two young children were present but not physically harmed.

Authorities said Bryant, whose body was discovered early Thursday morning, was murdered between 10 p.m. and midnight, according to WWLTV. Her black 1998 Lexus LS 400 reportedly went missing after the murder.

Bryant's husband, who had been out of town when his wife was killed, arrived at the house before noon and was distraught, according to the WWLTV report. The couple got married last month, and Bryant celebrated her birthday with family on Wednesday night, WWLTV said. Police reportedly did not elaborate on the conditions of the children, ages 2 and 7, but said they were safe and healthy.

"We are still working on the motive of this," New Orleans Police Superintendent Warren Riley told reporters. "We do have some limited information and limited information relative to leads at this time, but it's still very early at this point."

Police said they were not sure if Bryant knew the killer, but they did say that there was no sign of forced entry, according to WWLTV. Forensics swept through Bryant's house on Thursday, and relatives and neighbors also went to the residence.

"We've not drawn any conclusions," Assistant New Orleans Police Superintendent Marlon Defillo told WWLTV. "We've not made any elimination. As the day progresses, we hope to learn more, but it's a work in progress."

Mannie Fresh (real name: Byron O. Thomas) — a legendary producer who claims T.I.'s "Big Things Poppin' " as his latest hit — was reportedly on his way back to his native New Orleans from Texas.

Akon has been charged with a misdemeanor count of endangering the welfare of a minor and second-degree harassment in connection with a controversial concert this summer in Fishkill, New York, according to the Poughkeepsie Journal. He is reportedly due to be arraigned in a local court on Monday.

During the show, which took place on June 3 and was caught on fans' cell phone cameras, Akon allegedly threw a 15-year-old fan into the crowd. According to the Journal, a small object sailed by Akon's shoulder as he was about to start performing a song onstage, which prompted him to say, "Oh, wait a minute. What was that?" He then urged the crowd to "point him out, point him out. Who is he?"

Audience members identified the alleged culprit, after which a security guard asked Akon if he wanted the boy brought onstage. Akon responded, "So go get him. Bring him out to me."

As the fan was brought to the stage, Akon removed his shirt and chain and then grabbed the boy, tossed him over his shoulder and threw him into the crowd, saying, "Now we can start the show, y'all ready." A moment later, Akon looked down at the crowd and said, "He's OK, he's all right," then shortly later chastised the audience for a perceived lack of support. "See, now you got me feeling by myself," he said in the cell phone video footage. "I thought I had fans and support." According to TMZ.com, after the child was thrown, he fell on another teen who later said she had been diagnosed with a concussion.

The Journal reported that the boy's mother contacted authorities and gave them her son's name, which has not been revealed. Police had been seeking the boy to see if he'd been injured in the incident and was interested in pressing charges. The Journal also said the uninjured boy refused medical treatment on site and left right after the incident. Akon's attorney subsequently released a statement proclaiming the singer's innocence in the bizarre episode.

"Given the information that we have reviewed to date, it does not appear to us that Akon was involved in any criminal conduct whatsoever," read a statement from the MC's attorney, Benjamin Brafman. "We are prepared to fully cooperate with any law enforcement agency that may be investigating this incident. We are confident that after a thorough investigation it will be apparent that no criminal prosecution of Akon is warranted."

The Fishkill incident wasn't Akon's only concert controversy this year, however. In May, he lost his Verizon tour sponsorship for aggressively randy onstage conduct with an underage girl. And in late October, his planned show at Atlanta's Emory University was canceled after several people, including his drummer, were injured while setting up for the gig.
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Lock his ass UP!!! I'm mad that they waited THIS long to arraign his unattractive azz! He picked that young man up, lifted him over his head and hurled him to the ground like he was a piece of garbage and all for throwing a piece of PAPER on the stage?

If I were the parents, I'd be ready to kick ass anyway! Why did they wait a full FOUR months before they decided to take action... there was DEFINITELY a police presence at that concert, but they watched this asshole pick that boy up and throw him off the stage on onto the ground and allowed him to continue with his show as if he had just invited him on stage and gave him backstage passes!

THIS is when celebrity goes wrong because had those SAME police watched a REGULAR man lift someone up and throw them over their head onto the ground, he would have been in handcuffs before the boy could say "ouch".

Good evening Miss Pearl!!

I'm positive you recieve many emails a day, but I would be honored if took the time out and read mine as well. I'm 23 years old, a soon college graduate, single, working 2 jobs, easy on the eyes southern belle. And I can't seem to get a man to truly pay attention to me (and not my figure) to save my life!!

A few years ago I fell in love with a young black man who was smart, kind, so funny, and tall. He approached me one night and I didn't really find him attractive. I gave him my number anyway, and we ended up dating seriously for the next year and 4 months. He was my first true sexual partner (my first being a one night mistake), and I was head over heels for him. We began to have problems where he didn't want to date me anymore and finally broke up with me around my 21st birthday. On and off we had "booty calls"...a mistake...but I believe he took advantage of my love for him. Finally I let him go and was single and free.

I've enjoyed my single life for the past 2 years and associated with many amazing men and many weirdos. A few months ago I was in shape (36-26-38), legal, making my own money, and enjoying life with my other single best friends in a wonderful town to be single in. But lately I've been feeling really lonely. All my friends are in relationships with amazing men now. I looked back on men in the past that I've dated, and the ones that I found were good candidates for me wouldn't call me back, and the ones that had baby-momma-drama wouldn't leave me alone!

I believe men see me as a young, naive, nice breasted girl and nothing more. I'll admit I have made the mistake of sleeping with several that have come onto me thinking they liked me, but how do I get the ones I have an eye for?

I've went on dates with men who were picture perfect for me, and I don't think they cared to know my last name. I'll call them and no answer or call back. They sweet talk me and make me feel wonderful for a few weeks then through me out like old potatoe salad. Am I being a baby about the situation? I know patience is a virtue, but damn Miss Pearl.

My friends have great men over them week after week. And to be honest, even though I love my girls like they are blood, I've been told that they are unattractive by many and that they are shocked that men like them and not me. Should I just do something to not feel so lonely? How do I get that sexy man I see to approach me?

I'm intersting, honest, well-educated, humorous, and adorable (as my family says). My best friends have Prince Charmings buying them flowers, candy, clothes, calling them to say "I love you", and other acts to make me extremely jealous and sad. WHAT DO I DO TO GET THAT? Or do I just say "F this!" and give up?

Please Help!!
Lonely Young Black Woman
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Dear Lonely,

Don't give up. You're young and the thing you need to understand is that at 21, most of the men you are running across are too busy enjoying being 21 themselves instead of looking for "love"- as you seem to be.

I think the reason men aren't interested in you, is primarly based upon the way you present yourself to them... if you see yourself as a 36-24-38.... that's what THEY see. I truly believe that you added those measurements because you're as proud of those, as Pearl is about her 42-... nevermind, this ain't about me. When several people have a certain "perception" of you, then more likely than not, that's your self portrait baby, and ain't nobody paintin' that picture but you!

Are you flaunting that killer body that you seem to be so proud of, and is the problem the fact that your body has become what's hindering you, instead of simply something that comes WITH you? When you want a man to notice YOU, do you put your tiddys in a low cut blouse and arch your back so that they come in the room 7 seconds before you do in order to get his attention?

When you put your sexy foot forward.... that's what men see - period! It really sounds like the men who YOU believe are perfect for you aren't returning your calls because you CONVEY that they are "perfect" for you, whether you actually say those words or not, and men can tell the minute you open your mouth when you are looking for "husband" material.

If men see you as the jumpoff, then you need to do some self reflection because they're getting that from SOMEWHERE... so close your legs, button your blouse, and open your eyes. You can't manufacture love and you damn sure can't screw your way into it.

Go to church, find a good, single man who is looking to DATE and not just throw your legs behind your head and pound your ass until you get a headache from your tiddys slappin you on the forehead. You're young, enjoy being young. DATE and stop looking for "the one"... he'll come when it's time, and you can't set that alarm.

The biggest issue I see with you is that you don't know boundaries. Dating means that you can go out with Tom today, Rick on Sunday and Jimmy on Tuesday! Dating is a filtering process... you weed out the ones you don't want until you find the one you DO. You don't have to have sex with every one of them, but if you need to do that to learn who these men are - have SAFE fun.

You're 21 baby, you've got plenty of relationships to go through before you find the right one - take your time, and stop lookin for a relationship and just wait until one finds you.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, email me at: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

This video is funny as hell... I don't know if Snoop has gone "T-Pain", Billy Ocean,
Al Green, or Colonel Abrams on us in this very retro video... but I LIKE it!

Is he singing, or rapping?

This is the hottest mess I've seen in a LONG assed time... three women singing gospel music with fur coats on their backs and dead horses running down the backs of their necks. This shit is one hot assed mess!

Don't get me wrong, I love the Lord, and he heard my cry, but this shit is definitely when Gospel goes wrong. To me, these are the people who want stardom more than they want to praise him! And I'm not appreciating it. There are several people out these days who are taking the "gospel" out of gospel music, Tonex definitely comes to mind, but I definitely include these chicks are in that number.

I'm a fan of contemporary gospel, I love Kirk Franklin, et al; (even though I question him at times) but this right here is about the glitz and glamour side of the entertaiment business, not the power of the word. I could be wrong... but I'm callin' it as I see it on this one.

What say you? Comments?

Dear Miss Peal,

Please help. I was married for two year to a woman who cheated on me. We had two childrren and I am not sure the last one is mine because the first one look just like me but this one dont. When me and my wife sepreted the first time, her cousin started talking to me telling that my wife was cheating with a lot of other dude.

Long story shawt, me and girlie hooked up and started messing around. I did it because girlie was telling me that she was cheating so a brother did not fell bad about it. Me and my wifey got back together, but her cousin started tell me that if I didn't keep messing around with her she was going to tell my wife. So I keep doing it to her.

Now, me and my wife finally decided to get a divorce and I don't know what to do. My wife cousin says she want me to move in with her because she might be preganent but I don't want to move in with her because I am not ready for my wifes family to know that I messed with her and I know my wife is going to be mad when she find out old girl is pregnant.

My problem is that my wife is keeping our apartment and I don't really have money to get a apartment by myself so living with her will be a good move financially.

What can I tell my wife and her family so they won't be nosey and asking question?

Luke
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Dear Luke!

(Who the hell is Miss Peal?) The first thing you should be telling your wife is not to throw away any of the kids old homework so you can erase it and do it ya damn self! You ignorant bastard! You cheated on your wife because some gut bucket assed bitch told you that she cheated on you, and in "retaliation" you cheated on her with the "good samaritan" who told you that your WIFE wasn't shit? Yeah, she was a likely candidate for an affair. (Two dumb asses in love.)

No wonder your marriage fell apart, you can't even construct a complete sentence, witcha dumb ass! There is nothing lower than a man cheating on his wife with one of her relatives, but even worse than that, you might have this bitch pregnant and you're considering moving in with this hoe?

Don't you have children, Jackass? It's hard enough explaining to your children that you will no longer be living in the house with them as a traditional family, but you've thrown a whole separate issue into the mix... how in HELL are your children going to understand that their father is no longer sleeping in the bed with their mother, but now he is playing house with their cousin?

What kind of role example are you and this ghetto bitch setting for your children? How do they EVER live down the fact that their cousins are their brother and sister as well? Did your stupid ass ever get any CONCRETE evidence that your wife was cheating? Has your dumb ass realized that "girlie" might have been telling you that so that she could do exactly what she did?

You'd better be fine, filthy rich or can fuck, 'cause ya dumb as HELL, I ain't lyin'! You don't have a choice but to tell your wife, because if you don't - ghetto will. And you'd better damn sure be ready to eat whatever she gives your project ass because you deserve every gat damn bit of it.

If I was your wife, I would have moved to Atlanta to stay with Keyshia and Frankie's crazy ass too. (Now, I understand why she crazy as hell!) The only advice I can give your illiterate ass is to take a GED class, and then take a bus ride to hell! (I think that's the #189 - Decatur.)

Get the hell off of my porch, before I reach down 'tween these double d's and pull out something that will send some fire through your ass!

If you want advice from Miss Pearl... send me an email at: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

Directly above , Kelly is seen partying with the young woman at a high school function. What is a damn near 40-year-old man doing-hanging out with teenagers?

According to Sandra Rose, the real reason R. Kelly's publicist (Regina Daniels) quit is because R. Kelly' allegedly had intimate relations with her daughter who is now 19.

There is nothing illegal about hitting on a 19-year-old woman. But knowing R. Kelly's propensity for young girls, is it safe to assume that the physical contact began way before she turned 19? After all, R. Kelly has known her since she was four. Kelly was like a uncle to the girl, the Daniels feel their trust was violated.
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Should we feel sorry for this bitch? She's put "spin" on R. Kelly's rumored sexual predator-like tendancies for YEARS, even his most current case (Yeah, that one... the one that may never go to trial)

And now that the rumor is that he fucked HER daughter, she's pissed? I'm over it! Where was her fury when it was someone ELSES 13 year old daughter(s)??

Word is 50 is selling the mansion he bought from boxer Mike Tyson.... and I have to admit that I am very impressed. It was tacky as I suspected it would be. It was actually very tasteful.

Shit, I might go under my mattress and buy it for my damned self.
PS: If you can't see it, damnit - it's on Youtube.. get over it!

Check out this hidden camera footage of hotel housekeeping in hotels doing the okie doke on your asses. That's why I take my own pillows AND towels when I visit hotel rooms. These bastards are DISGUSTING!

Special Note: Don't EVER lay down on that comforter that they put on the beds... that's the nastiest shit in the room, I ain't lyin'. The first thing I do when I enter a hotel room is pull that nasty bastard off of the bed - think about it, have you EVER seen them take that thing out of the room? EVER? They take the sheets, pillowcases and towels, but have you EVER seen that thing come out of a room? Do you know how many people have had sex, slept, ate, etc on top of that damned thing?

I know for a fact back when I was a lil' hoe, I've had MANY a relations session on them bitches - and I ain't the only one. Don't put your babies on that nasty shit!

BOSTON — The winner of a $1 million lottery scratch ticket may not be so lucky after all.
That is because he is also a convicted bank robber who is not supposed to be gambling.
The state probation commissioner's office has scheduled a hearing for Dec. 7 in Barnstable Superior Court to determine whether Timothy Elliott, 55, violated his probation when he bought the $10 ticket for the "$800 Million Spectacular" game at a supermarket, department spokeswoman Coria Holland said Wednesday.

Elliott already has collected the first of 20 annual $50,000 checks from Massachusetts' lottery commission. A picture of Elliott, holding his first check, was even posted on the lottery's Web site Monday, though it was removed by Wednesday.

Elliott was placed on five years probation after pleading guilty in October 2006 to unarmed robbery for a January 2006 heist at a bank on Cape Cod.

Under terms of his probation, Elliott "may not gamble, purchase lottery tickets or visit an establishment where gaming is conducted, including restaurants where Keno may be played."

He also was put under the care of the state Department of Mental Health and sent to Taunton State Hospital for treatment. State officials refused Wednesday to say whether he was still receiving treatment. But court documents cited by the Cape Cod Times Wednesday said Elliott is currently allowed off hospital grounds unsupervised during daylight hours.

A telephone number for Elliott could not immediately be located on Wednesday, and it was not clear if he had a lawyer. Lottery spokesman Dan Rosenfeld said the lottery routinely cross references the names of winners with the state Revenue Department to see if they owe back taxes or child support.

In those cases, winnings go straight to the Revenue Department.
But in this case, it will be up to the court to determine what will happen with Elliott's winnings.
"This is kind of new territory," he said.

Dear Miss Pearl,

I have a problem that is not like the typical "my man did me wrong" emails you usually get on here. My problem is not really mine, but that of a girlfriend of mine. "Shayla" and I have been really good friends since we were little girls.

Shayla and I are both 23 years old and although we're friends, we have a different outlook on how to raise children. I know I may be out of line when I disagree with Shayla on how she raises her little girl, because I don't have any children, but the way Shayla treats her three year old daughter borders on abuse.

The smallest thing her little girl does, she acts like a raging lunatic and she doesn't care WHERE we are. We could be in line at the grocery store and if she tells her little girl not to touch, or ask for any candy, Shayla loses her mind. She grabs her daughter by the collar, gets in her face, calls her names, slaps her in the center of her back with all of her might. It's embarrassing and it hurts me because I seem to have an understanding that Shay doesn't really get, they put candy there SO that children can ask for it... and when kids ask for it, they are just being KIDS. Yes, they hear you say, "don't ask" but that's not going to stop them from wanting a pack of gum.

I have told Shayla many times that she should stop calling her daughter "bitch", and stop hitting her for every little thing that she does or I can't be around her anymore because it bothers me. She told me that that's "her baby" and if I don't like it, not to come around. I stopped coming around for a minute, but started hanging out with her again because other than this one thing - Shayla is a great friend. The beatings are starting to escalate to the point where every time Shayla says her daughters name, she jumps and has this terrified look in her eye if her mother even gets close to her. I suspect that Shayla has escalated to more than mental abuse, but I'm not sure how to proceed.

Please help me, Ayntee

Concerned Friend
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Dear Concerned,

You have every right to be alarmed behind the behavior of this ignorant bitch you call a friend. Nothing pisses me off more than to see some trick embarrassing their child in public like that shit is cute.

Ladies, we do NOT have to FRIGHTEN our children into submission... all it takes is a little patience and understanding! If your child is inquisitive and asks a lot of questions threatening them with an ass whoopin' for talking too much means that you don't need to be a parent. CHILDREN learn by sight, touch and familiarity... and if all your child see's is you hitting someone, if the only time you touch them is to grab their little asses by the arm and swat them on the ass, and the only thing they are familiar with is being called names... those are the people they become!

I was in the grocery store one time and I nearly go into a fight with a bitch because she was standing at line at the bakery waiting on a birthday cake... she had a, what appeared to be 2-3 year old in the cart and when the people handed her the cake, she put it in the cart and the little boy excitedly and innocently asked, "Mama, it's my birthday? That's my birthday cake?".. she said "Naw!" and continued talking to the baker when the child asked the question again... she grabbed this little boy by his collar and said as loudly as she could, "DIDN"T I TELL YOU THIS CAKE AINT FOR YOU? ITS FOR MY MAMA!!! ASK ME A FUCKIN GIN, HEAR!!"

Even at two, the little boy had common sense enough to be embarrassed! The other customers around me, looked on in horror as he buried his face in his jacket - but the damage was done! I was TOO upset to say anything at that time, but when she walked away, the conversations began, "My gosh! I can't believe she did that!" Later, as I continued shopping, I happened upon this bitch and the baby again... as they passed a rack of t-shirts, he put his hand out and touched one and it came off the rack as they passed. This bitch lost her gat damn MIND!

She went to beatin' that baby about the face, back, head - ANYWHERE she could find a spot and I lost my mind right with her ass... the next thing I knew me and that bitch were standing face to face and all I remember was her tellin me that that was "HER gat damn baby" and I remember telling her ass that if she hit him again, he was gonna be the STATES baby because I was gonna call the police and have them pull the tapes.

Eventually, she calmed down and I was able to talk to her and explain that he was a child and some things you have to write off as "kid shit" and not let it frustrate you, that we don't have to have our children FEAR us to have their respect... I doubt if she got it, but I felt good just knowing that she listened, even if she wasn't paying much attention.

It hurt me most because she was a black woman and about 10 minutes later, I was standing in line while this white lady had her little boy with her who was about the same age as the other child. He touched every single thing in the aisle asking his mother, "What's this for?", "It's a thermometer... you use it to tell the temperature of your food to make sure it's ready"... "What's this?"... "Hand sanitizer... you put it on your hands to make sure your hands are clean when you don't have soap"... immediately, I wished the black mother was there to witness what was happening... this lady was COMMUNICATING with her son, so that he would grow up to be a communicator!

When that little boy has a conversation with people, we "ooh and ahh" because we can't believe that he's so "smart"... and it's not so much that he's genius, but the fact that he's been talked TO and not AT! If we "hush" our children every time they ask a question... how will they learn?

If we make them afraid to ask questions... how will they feel comfortable at school raising their hands to ask a question when they don't' understand their lesson? To that ghetto bitch you all a friend (and I'm concerned about your desire to befriend her child abusing ass in the first place) I would simply report her ass to child welfare and let them do the work.

Either call anonymously and have them sent to her house and they'll investigate on their own - talking to neighbors, etc... or the next time you're out with her and she starts abusing that girl, excuse yourself, use your cell phone to call the police and give them her license plate number - they'll track her ass down, trust me. If you do it that way, you won't have to worry about her confronting you for telling Child Protective Services... she'll think that someone in the store reported her crazy ass.

If all else fails... give the bitch my address and tell her you know a 62 year old bitch name Pearl Ann that will windmill her gat damn spleen loose the next time she wants to hit somebody!

Good luck, baby - Keep me posted.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, contact me at: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

NEW YORK — A 24-year-old man told investigators he shot and killed his mother and brother, then chopped up their bodies and dumped them into the Harlem River, police said.

Lamar Platt was ordered held without bail Tuesday on second-degree murder and weapons possession charges. His attorney did not immediately respond to a phone message.

Police came to the Bronx apartment Platt shared with his mother and 22-year-old brother on Sunday to investigate a report by Platt's grandmother that she had not heard from the family since Nov. 18, police said Monday.

When investigators arrived, they found a trail of blood in the apartment and Platt outside; police said he admitted killing his mother, 45-year-old Marlene Platt, and brother, Nashan Platt.
Police said Platt used a shopping cart to carry the body parts to the nearby Harlem River, making a half dozen trips Nov. 18 and 19.


The motive for the killings was unclear. Police used patrol boats, helicopters and scuba divers to search the river Monday, but did not find any remains. The search resumed Tuesday morning in the river, an 8-mile-long tidal strait that separates Manhattan from the Bronx.

Dear Miss Pearl,

I have a big problem and I need your advice. For the past two years, I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend "Chris". Chris is a good guy who is very successful and level-headed, but he constantly neglects me. In the past 2 years we have gone on a total of 3 dates, and during those dates he spends at least 30 minutes on the phone with other people.

When I stay over his house, he only comes in the room with me to have sex, then he goes off to the computer room for hours and leaves me by myself until he wants to have sex again. He has never bought me anything for Christmas or my birthday. Even though he does all this stuff, he claims that he loves me and wants to marry me sometime soon, but I keep putting that off because I don't want to be in a marriage where I feel neglected.

Now, a few months ago I met a guy named "John" who was doing some business at my job. He asked me out on a date, and I originally said no, but after extreme frustration with my boyfriend I agreed to go out with him just once. John and I have never slept together or kissed, but we have been going out at least once a week for the past two months, and I am having the time of my life.


He is attentive, considerate, and most of all he doesn't act like it's a chore to spend time with me. He knows that I have a boyfriend so he has NEVER tried anything, but lately he's been saying that he wants us to be together and that he can't take being aroung me when I belong to someone else.

Now I'm torn. I love my boyfriend, and we have so much history together that can never be erased, but John seems to be everything that my boyfriend is not. I have come to the point where I need to either break things off with John or be with him completely becuse his feelings are involved now and I don't want to hurt him or my boyfriend. what should I do?

Sincerely, Torn

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Dear Torn, (I'ma need y'all to use some originality with these names from now one... how about some Natalies... Shalamanique's, Razanda's? There are waaaaay too many "Torn's" readin' Miss Pearl's Window - I ain't lyin'!


Did I digress? Only for a moment...but I'm back. I have a few questions for you, not that PEARL needs the answer, but maybe, as you read them aloud, you'll answer them for yourself... The first issue I have is that you say you've been with this guy for two years... yet you've only been on three dates in those two years...

1) If he's taken you out a total of three times in a two year time-span - Do you not have the very same man you got with in the beginning? If he wasn't taking you anywhere THEN... why is it a problem NOW?

You say that he's very successful and level-headed, and is constantly on the computer in another room:

2) Is he watching porn, surfing the net, chatting with other women, or doing what it takes to remain a successful man?

Is his lack of "attention" because he's a hard worker who spends a lot of time on a quest for success - and if so...

3) Is he not the same man who you got with in the beginning, or was he attentive toward you and then stopped all of a sudden and began focusing on the computer?

I'm getting the feeling that you are just as culpable for the issues you're having in this relationship as Chris is, because you've allowed this thing to go on for this long... how can you honestly have a problem with a man not being attentive, when you entered into a relationship without so much as going on a date and being courted? Where what you call, the "dates" the first three times you spent time together? What, in your mind makes a date? Did he take you out the first three times and every time after that, you just showed up to his house and gave him some ass?

4) Are you really in a relationship, or are you the convenient piece of ass who comes by, gives it up and then goes into the other room until you're "summoned" again?

I'm sorry, but I can't put the blame on Chris with this one.... I say it all the time and I'll say it again... people only do what you allow them to do; but it doesn't seem to me that Chris is at fault here, he is who is his and he's given you nothing but "Chris" from day one... apparently there was something about him that made you want to pursue this relationship, because you entered into one with him with the knowledge that he wasn't paying attention to you - YOUR bad!

Now, as far as this other guy goes... the decision to pursue him is yours... if you believe that he's giving you what you need, then by all means, have at it. For many married folk, relationships like yours and Chris' seem to work for them... if you're on a different page than Chris is on, then you need to walk away before you enter into your third year of loneliness... 2 years of misery is better than 2 years and a day!

Remember this, though: The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side of the street, so with your relationship with Chris as it is right now... ANY man who will pay you some attention will feel like a Knight in shining armour... but that isn't always the case.

If you love Chris... you need to sit him down and lay out your reasons for feeling tempted to walk away from the relationship... and if Chris loves you, he'll be willing to work on it. I'll never understand why people don't have a problem going back into KFC to fight about the fact that they cheated them out of a piece of CHICKEN..... but won't go to their significant others to fight for PEACE in their RELATIONSHIPS.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl... send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

Fans of Amy Winehouse are lashing out at her after a reportedly shambolic performance at a recent concert.

Followers of the Back To Black star branded her gig at London's Hammersmith Apollo chaotic after she walked out midway through her set.

Winehouse, who appeared on stage with smeared make-up and a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, disappeared several times throughout the performanceWinehouse, who appeared on stage with smeared make-up and a cigarette hanging out of her mouth, disappeared several times throughout the performance.

The bee-hived singer then stormed off-stage after the audience began to boo and heckle her halfway through her set.

Winehouse also enraged her supporters on the opening night of her UK tour in Birmingham, which saw some fans walk out of the show and demand a refund.

Last week, Amy learned her husband Blake Fielder-Civil would be spending Christmas in prison after being remanded in custody accused of perverting the course of justice and causing grievous bodily harm.

Meanwhile, it's been reported that the singer is considering checking herself into rehab in the New Year.
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Meanwhile, check out pre-crack, Amy:

MONTE CARLO, Monaco - R&B legend Patti LaBelle says one of the biggest obstacles she's had to face in her career has been watching friend and fellow diva Celine Dion soar up the charts with a song she recorded first.
LaBelle tells the online magazine MonacoRevue.com that racism in the music industry is what kept her from reaching the same heights with the single "If You Asked Me To."

Dion's 1992 rendition soared to number 4 on the Billboard Hot 100 chart, while LaBelle's version three years earlier peaked at number 79.

LaBelle says Dion had the sales "because she's a white girl" and that people pay more respect to white artists who sing well than black women.

Nevertheless, she went on to refer to Dion as a friend, and said that she's satisfied with her lengthy career and is grateful for the blessings in her life.

Both LaBelle and Dion were honoured with career achievement awards at the World Music Awards in Monaco earlier this month.

"Why do I think Celine had the sales and I didn't? Because she's a white girl," LaBelle tells the Canadian-owned magazine based in Monaco.

"You want me to be honest? That's why."

"People pay more respect to white artists who sing well before they do black women," she continues in the question-and-answer piece, posted Nov. 23.

"I've been singing for 45 years and that's an obstacle that I'm still ... I'm getting over it because I'm fabulous. You know, so you can't beat me up. You can't make me feel less than I am because whenever I get the microphone I'm gonna show you who I am. But the industry is very racist."
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Dear Patti,

Girl please! We love you and you're a legend within the BLACK community, because as BLACK people, we respect YOU more than we respect Celine Dion! Racism? Possibly, but get over it. What's good for the goose, is good for the gander!

Celine Dion went to the top of the POP charts because when that WHITE woman sang that song, WHITE people listened because they loved Celine Dion and they liked what they heard! When YOU sang that song, BLACK people listened, because BLACK people loved you and we liked what we heard!

Is this what we are reduced to? I could say the VERY same thing about SO many songs, originally sung by white people, but turned into hits after they were sung by black people and actually a couple of diddy's come to mind, "I Will Always Love You" by Dolly Parton, made famous by Whitney Houston is one... and then there's "This Woman's Work" posted on yesterday's "Who Did That?" originally sung by Kate Bush, made famous by Maxwell.

Patti, we love you, but get over it!

Dolly Parton, "I Will Always Love You":

TMZ.com - Did you ever think you'd hear the words "Foxy Brown" and "good behavior" in the same sentence?

Well, here goes: TMZ has learned that rapperista Foxy Brown has been let out of "punitive segregation" early -- for -- yes -- "good behavior" while in solitary. She was supposed to do 76 days in the unit, but only did 40 days. We're told that she was one of four female inmates given early release among the 20-plus in the unit, and our source stressed that she received neither celebrity nor holiday treatment.

Foxy (real name: Inga Marchand) got herself thrown into solitary for shoving another inmate and refusing to give a urine sample, but we're told that she was compliant and cooperative. Do you believe in miracles?

NEW YORK - Salt-N-Pepa are still pushing it. Cheryl "Salt" James was determined to march for racial equality in Jena, La., last September, whether or not cameras from her VH1 reality series, "The Salt-N-Pepa Show," followed her.

"I just felt like as a mom, I wanted to be there," James told The Associated Press in a recent phone interview. "The Salt-N-Pepa Show" documents the reunion of James and her former partner, Sandy "Pepa" Denton. James left the groundbreaking female rap group in 2002.

James didn't think VH1, the cable network home of reality TV fare such as "I Love New York 2" and "America's Most Smartest Model," would be interested in capturing such an experience.

"I was surprised that they wanted to come and was very, very happy about it," she told the AP. "It's nice to entertain, but it's also nice to use your platform to bring awareness to different issues."

Upcoming episodes feature James and Denton working out their differences with life coach Iyanla Vanzant and performing at the House of Blues in Los Angeles. The series concludes Dec. 2. James -- who's "more open than ever" to recording a new album with Denton -- said VH1 has ordered a second season of their show.

AJC.COM - Atlanta rapper T.I. illegally possessed firearms and a silencer on three occasions —all while a convicted felon— before his arrest on federal firearms charges here in October, prosecutors said in a motion filed Monday.

In the court filing, federal prosecutors said they plan to tell jurors this information during T.I.'s trial next year. On Oct. 13, hours before the BET Hip-Hop Awards ceremony in Atlanta, agents arrested T.I., whose real name is Clifford Harris Jr., for trying to buy machine guns and silencers in a Midtown parking lot.



Dwight Thomas, one of Harris' lawyers, said the defense team had been told by prosecutors the motion would be filed. "We will respond," Thomas said, declining further comment.

Harris has pleaded not guilty to those charges. He was released pending trial on a $3 million bond, under strict conditions that include home confinement.

In Monday's court filing, the U.S. Attorney's Office in Atlanta said the first unlawful incident occurred in December 2001 in Atlanta. Harris, using the name Douglas Morgan, was arrested for carrying a concealed 9 mm pistol inside the GMC Yukon SUV he was driving, the filing said, noting the incident did not result in a conviction.

The second incident occurred in November 2002 in Henry County when Harris was arrested for possessing a 10 mm pistol and carrying a concealed weapon inside the SUV. This incident resulted in a criminal conviction, the filing said.

The third incident, the filing said, occurred in December 2004 in Fulton County when Harris' home was searched by authorities. Inside Harris' bedroom, officers found a firearm with an attached silencer, large amounts of ammunition and photos of Harris holding firearms.

The details of this search were discussed at Harris's bond hearing in October. Harris was not convicted of any charges related to this search.

Harris was first convicted of a felony in 1998 of drug distribution in Cobb County.

Federal prosecutors said they plan to introduce evidence of the prior incidents because they can establish proof of an element of the crime, such as intent to commit the crime.

Paul Kish, an Atlanta criminal defense lawyer, said evidence of similar acts should not be introduced by prosecutors simply to show that a defendant had a propensity to commit certain crimes.
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Dear T.I.,



Baybay..... it's a wrap.



Much Love,

Ayntee Pearl

Dear Miss Pearl,

I have a problem and I think that you can help me out. I'm 27 years old and I consider myself to be mildly successful considering the circumstances of my childhood. You see, I was raised by my maternal grandmother because my mother was an alcoholic and never had much time for me and my older sister.

To her defense, she was a young mother who married, had children, and divorced much too early. My relationship with my mother was never really a good one. She popped in and out of our lives whenever she felt the need to make an appearance, but it was never for long. When I was about 10, my mother cleaned her life up, had two more children and moved about 20 minutes away, but still never really took an active part in the lives of her other two children.

Things for my sister and I weren't the best because my grandmother was on a fixed income and mom didn't contribute much in the way of support - her favorite excuse was that "she has two kids to take care of". My grandmother always stressed the importance of education and while I excelled in school, my sister was never really a great student and our lives took two different paths. While I received scholarships and worked my way through college, my sister ended up doing to her children exactly what our mother did to us - leaving them for our grandmother to raise.

While I was in college, every now and then I'd call my mother and ask for help when my grandmother wasn't able to, and her response was always the same, "You got a built in money maker, you better use it." and then she'd hang up on me. Meanwhile, she took care of the two children she raised AND their kids as if her life depended on it.

I finally got my degree and got a great job that pays 53,000 a year - which is a LOT of money for a girl from the projects. I felt like I deserved a new car, so I bought one... I felt like I deserved a home to call my own, so I bought one and now my mother has started drinking again and loses all of her paycheck on the riverboat, gambling. My sister who was raised by my mother told me that she is tired of my mother not contributing anything to the household and is ready to put her out. I don't understand why she says that my mother doesn't contribute anything because I send my mother money every month - even when I can't afford it, but I do it because mom says that she gave birth to me and that I should respect her and help her when needed.

Thing is, my mother has recently started dropping hints that I shouldn't be living in that "big old house by myself." My other sister says that mom wants to come live with me and she wants to bring my sisters three children with her.

Miss Pearl, I am finally at a place where I have dreamed about being all of my life and I really don't want my mother and neices and nephews changing all of that for me. Am I being selfish?

- My mother's keeper
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Dear Keeper,

In Exodus 20:12, there is a commandment with a promise that says, ""Honor thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the LORD thy God giveth thee" - but I couldn't find a damn thing in there that says you have to be a fool about it.

See, people think that because the bible says you have to love your parents that that also means you have to put up with their bullshit, and that ain't what honoring your parents means. You can love and honor your mother from across the country, you don't have to do it from the same household!

Don't you for one minute feel obligated to take in a mother who didn't spend one minute taking care of you, and don't take on the responsibility of a sister who doesn't give a shit about her kids either! Your only responsibility to your mother is to love her, and treat her respectfully - you don't owe her shit else. People will only treat you how you allow them to treat you and as long as you let your ghetto assed mama use and abuse you, she's gonna do it. So tell her that if she is unhappy living with your sister, then she needs to back her grown as up from those slot machines and find an apartment on her own.

Your mother is not sick, she's not old, she can fend for herself... and based upon what she told you about your "built in money maker"... I say give her ass a box of condoms and tell her Pearl said, "Do work!" People like your mother irk the hell out of me, treating the "good" child like shit while praising and going above and beyond for the ones who wouldn't spit on their asses if they were on fire.

If you want to continue to help your mom financially, by all means, do so - but you do that shit within reason. Don't you go into debt or risk losing a GAT damn thing you have to support somebody elses gambling habit! You've worked hard for the things you have, and I think that YOU should enjoy them before you allow someone else to come in and reap the benefits of all that you've worked to achieve!

Think about it, if you become responsible for three children, an adult, a house, AND a car, you're not gonna have TIME to enjoy the fruits of your labor because you're gonna be spending all of your time working and trying to maintain all of that shit while your sister is enjoying her "child-free" life and your mother is on the boat hittin' the slot machines.

Your mother has never been a mother to you, and now that you're successful and doing it on your own, she wants to become a burden by trying to guilt you into taking care of her grown ass so that she can continue to take care of OTHER people?

The next time that hoe tells you what a DAUGHTER is supposed to be like, remind her ass that you don't have much EXPERIENCE being a daughter because, thanks to HER low-budget ass, all you have experience with is being a GRAND DAUGHTER, and see how she likes hearing that shit.

I'm proud of you baby, even if your mama ain't. Take two pieces of candy out of that bowl on your way out... make sure you eat the tootsie roll yourself and make SURE you don't eat that other piece of chocolate without the label, you give that one to your mama right before she takes her ass on the boat this weekend and then email me a picture of her shitty ass in them powder blue gauchos with shit runnin' down the back of em when she gets home.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, email me at: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

In case you missed the sales the day after Thanksgiving, today is "Cyber Monday", the day internet sites offer great deals to individuals who weren't trying to be in the stores at 4am on Friday morning...

Click the title above for a listing of cyber stores who are offering everything from discounted prices to free shipping.

Atlanta Journal Constitution - National evangelist Juanita Bynum took issue Friday with her estranged husband's claims that her interview in a popular woman's magazine stretched the truth.

Bynum is being featured in Essence magazine this month in an interview about her tumultuous relationship with Bishop Thomas W. Weeks III.

Bynum has accused her husband of beating, choking and stomping her in an Atlanta hotel parking lot on Aug. 21.

Weeks, who has denied the abuse, held a press conference Wednesday to dispute Bynum's claims in the magazine. The bishop said he was looking forward to the time when the judicial system would "vindicate" him.

On Friday, Bynum had her say: "Bishop Weeks is doing exactly what he promised he would do and that is, try to destroy my name with lies, fabrications and exaggerations," the pastor said in a statement provided by her publicist, Amy Malone. "His behavior is to be expected."

Bynum said the facts of the case against Weeks speak for themselves. He was charged with aggravated assault, terroristic threats and simple battery for the alleged attack on his wife. A bellman witnessed the attack and was later interviewed by police. Authorities also have photos of her bruises.

Bynum discusses the attack in detail in Essence magazine, which is featuring a two-part interview with the pastor that will continue next month.

"At this stage of my ministry/career with major projects pending, I would not have had any motive to stage my own attack and bring worldwide negative press to myself," Bynum said in the statement. "... I am confident in the power of truth! I was Juanita Bynum when I walked into this marriage and I will continue to be Juanita Bynum as I exit from this marriage in spite of all false allegations that have come against my name."

The couple's divorce is still pending in Gwinnett County Superior Court.

LAS VEGAS - A former beverage manager at the Hard Rock Hotel in Las Vegas has sued Dennis Rodman, claiming the former NBA star assaulted her in March 2006 by rubbing up against her body and slapping her on the buttocks.

In her federal lawsuit filed this week, Sara Robinson also accused her former employer of retaliating against her after she complained about Rodman's behavior.

Rodman spokeswoman Shannon Barr declined to comment Saturday.
In her complaint, Robinson said she was working in the resort's Cuba Libre bar when Rodman, a hotel guest, began "making a scene'' by trying to climb atop the bar after failing to gain her full attention.

"As Robinson stepped around the bar, Rodman grabbed her, pulled her towards him and rubbed his body against hers,'' the lawsuit alleges. "Robinson tried to get free from Rodman's grasp at which time he assaulted her by reaching down and slapping her open-handed on the bottom.''
The complaint, which seeks unspecified damages, claims Robinson was fired after she filled out a voluntary statement detailing Rodman's actions in a subsequent incident at the same bar the next month.

The document accuses Rodman of assault and battery, and the Hard Rock Hotel of negligence by failing to protect her from Rodman's "harassing conduct,'' the Las Vegas Review-Journal reported. The 46-year-old Rodman is no stranger to lawsuits in Las Vegas. Four women earlier sued him, accusing him of grabbing their breasts at the Las Vegas Hilton in 1998.

In 2001, a district court jury awarded former Mirage craps dealer James Brasich $80,000 in another case against Rodman.

Brasich said Rodman humiliated him by rubbing dice on his head, chest, stomach and genitals during an October 1997 craps game. Rodman appealed the verdict, and both sides later reached a confidential settlement.
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I wonder what took her this long to file this lawsuit if this shit happend in 2006... I'm thinkin' that she DOES realize that it's about to be 2008 in about 45 days.

I suspect that this lapse in time has more to do with the fact that some "settlement" negotiations fell through.

But I'm just an old cigarette smokin', moon shine drankin' bitch that don't know much - but I'll tell you what I DO know... if the man on that picture above EVER rubbed his hand across my ass, I'd be callin' Animal Control before I'd call a lawyer.

Twanbiz2:


Jaidus:


Ebonyangel:


And then there's Maxwell's version:

With the success of his recent film, 'Why Did I Get Married', Tyler Perry has agreed to write, direct, and star in "The Family That Preys Together" and "Madea Goes to Jail". According to a press release announcing the news,the titles will mark the sixth and seventh motion pictures in Lionsgate's Tyler Perry franchise.

Perry will direct 'The Family that Prays Together' from his original screenplay and will play one of the film's major roles. He will direct and reprise his role as the wildly popular title character in 'Madea Goes to Jail', adapted from what many consider his most popular play. Both films are scheduled to begin production in Spring 2008.

Perry's newest film, MEET THE BROWNS, opens nationwide on March 21, 2008. Perry directs this adaptation of his stage play and co-stars alongside Angela Bassett and Rick Fox.

Lionsgate knows a cash cow when they see it and with the SAW franchise coming to end - well, how many sequels can they put out? - Tyler Perry is the next best thing to success.
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Hmph! Pearl Ann been smokin' cigarettes and cussin' folk out for 40 years and if four of my husbands hadn't died, I wouldn't have made a gat damn dollar doin' it, and here this long tiddy wanch come with that same purple dress on makin' millions!

I'm mad at hell! (but I'm goin to see this movie - and y'all better go see it too!)

Here's a clip of the new film, College Road Trip starring Martin Lawrence, Raven Simone & Kim Whitley. It looks like one of those cute, family film, but then it's produced by Disney, so what do you expect?
Check it out:
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Once again, as I'm sittin' around with a stomach full of dressin', smokin' a cigarette and watchin' re-runs of "That's My Mama!" as random shit just floats through my head. Here's a list of shit that just hit me:

Pearl really don't appreciate this mess right here... all these boys do is go out and have fun doing what they love to do and they get to make THIS much money doin' it? That's some bullshit! Now, let me go out and do what I love to do, and they'll arrest my ass for possession!

Shaq got eleventeen kids with that woman, so we can cut his down by a forth... but who would have thought that Tiger Woods makes that much money? In 5 years he'll be Oprah, won't he? Now, I find several things interesting about these numbers, the first being that Tiger technically only made 11 million dollars, but has 100 million in endorsements, while Lebron James made a little less than 6 million, but had 25 in endorsements, but the thing I noticed the most was that the current homerun king only has 2 million dollars in endorsements - a testament to the fact that his record is currently debated by many... or his race? You be the judge.

1. Tiger Woods
Profession: Pro golfer
Fun fact: As the top earner, Woods earns twice as much as the second highest earner on the Fortunate 50.
Salary/winnings: $11,941,827
Endorsements: $100,000,000
Total salary: $111,941,827

2. Oscar De La Hoya
Profession: Boxing
Fun fact: De La Hoya took home $28 million in pay-per-view receipts alone from last year’s fight with Floyd Mayweather (No. 21 on the Fortunate 50).
Salary/winnings: $53,000,000
Endorsements: $2,000,000
Total salary: $55,000,000

3. Phil Mickelson
Profession: Pro golfer
Fun fact: Mickelson’s endorsement deals account for nearly 92 percent of his total income.
Salary/winnings: $4,256,505
Endorsements: $47,000,000
Total salary: $51,256,505

4. Shaquille O’Neal
Profession: Miami Heat (NBA)
Fun fact: O’Neal is close to the highest-salaried player in the NBA and just recently lost his title as “endorsement king” to No. 6, LeBron James.
Salary/winnings: $20,000,000
Endorsements: $15,000,000
Total salary: $35,000,000

5. Kobe Bryant
Profession: Los Angeles Lakers (NBA)
Fun fact: Bryant has the top-selling jersey number in the U.S. and China since he switched his jersey number from No. 8 to No. 24.
Salary/winnings: $17,718,750
Endorsements: $16,000,000
Total salary: $33,718,750

6. LeBron James
Profession: Cleveland Cavaliers (NBA)
Fun fact: In 2003, James signed a rumored $100 million in endorsement deals, including Nike, Upper Deck trading cards and Coca-Cola – to name a few. Salary/winnings: $5,828,089
Endorsements: $25,000,000
Total salary: $30,828,089

7. Kevin Garnett
Profession: Minnesota Timberwolves (NBA)
Fun fact: Though he trails Shaq in this list, Garnett edges out over O’Neal by $1 million in salary, making him the highest-paid NBA player in the league.
Salary/winnings: $21,000,000
Endorsements: $8,000,000
Total salary: $29,000,000

8. Derek Jeter
Profession: New York Yankees (MLB)
Fun fact: Despite the Yankees’ loss to the Indians in the 2007 playoffs, Jeter has played with the team since he began his career in 1995.
Salary/winnings: $22,000,000
Endorsements: $7,000,000
Total salary: $29,000,000

9. Alex Rodriguez
Profession: New York Yankees (MLB)
Fun fact: A-Rod is due to earn another $81 million throughout the next three years of his contract – but experts say he could make more from another team after ’07.
Salary/winnings: $22,000,000
Endorsements: $6,000,000
Total salary: $28,000,000

10. Dale Earnhardt Jr.
Profession: NASCAR driver
Fun fact: Earnhardt Jr. left his late father’s company, DEI, in 2007 to drive for Hendrick Motorsports. With his new contract, Earnhardt Jr. will drive No. 25, a Mountain Dew and Amp Energy car, leaving his legendary No. 8 Budweiser car up for grabs.
Salary/winnings: $7,111,735
Endorsements: $20,000,000
Total salary: $27,111,735

11. Allen Iverson
Profession: Denver Nuggets (NBA)
Fun fact: Iverson is one of the most controversial players in the NBA, his most recent conflicts include a $25,000 fine for criticizing a referee, and, after denying a role in a 2005 nightclub brawl, testifying that two men who sued him for $20 million in connection with the fight want to cash in on his basketball fame.
Salary/winnings: $17,184,375
Endorsements: $7,000,000
Total salary: $24,184,375

12. Peyton Manning
Profession: Indianapolis Colts (NFL)
Fun fact: This 2007 Super Bowl MVP is the top-earning player in the NFL – as well as the top endorser.
Salary/winnings: $10,000,000
Endorsements: $13,000,000
Total salary: $23,000,000

13. Tracy McGrady
Profession: Houston Rockets (NBA)
Fun fact: Despite six trips to the playoffs, T-Mac has never advanced to the second round in his entire 10-year career.
Salary/winnings: $16,901,500
Endorsements: $6,000,000
Total salary: $22,901,500

14. Barry Bonds
Profession: San Francisco Giants (MLB)
Fun fact: With 756 home runs in the 2007 season, Bonds finally broke Hank Aaron’s record. After 15 seasons with Giants, the controversial player wasn’t re-signed for the 2008 season, leaving his new team – and salary – up in the air.
Salary/winnings: $20,800,000
Endorsements: $2,000,000
Total salary: $22,800,000

15. Roger Clemens
Profession: New York Yankees (MLB)
Fun fact: Before taxes, Clemens makes $28,000,022 annually – the extra $22 is to match his jersey number.
Salary/winnings: $19,000,000
Endorsements: $3,500,000
Total salary: $22,500,000

First Dance: Bride & Groom:

Dear Miss Pearl,

While in college, I met the man of my dreams. He was tall, dark, handsome, educated, ambitious and most importantly, he loved me and did whatever it took to make me happy. When we met, I was what they call in the black community, "fine as wine" -with measurements of 36-24-36.

On the night of graduation he placed a three karat diamond ring on my finger and asked me to be his wife. He bought the house that I wanted and gave me the keys to a brand new Mercedes Benz as a wedding gift.

We had our first child five years ago and our youngest will be three in February. Since my last child I have had trouble getting rid of the baby weight. Whereas I was once 120lbs, I now weigh in somewhere near 220.

The problem I have now is my husband - he's changed. He comes home late, he's not interested in sex, he's changed the way he dresses, joined the local gym and spends very little time at home with me and the kids.

I've tried talking to him about it, but he just blows me off. My sister says that he must be seeing another woman, but I don't know. What do you think my husband's problem is?

Please help,

Lekeisha
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Dear Lekeisha,

First things first, who the hell you think you foolin'? Pearl Ann is a lot of things, but a damn fool ain't one of em. You say you married a man when you were 120lbs and now you're a hundred pounds heavier and HE's changed? Girl please!

You got a couple of problems... the first one is having a husband who was attracted to 120lb women and now you've go a whole 'notha bitch attached to your hip and you're pretending like you don't know it.

I don't know what to say about you sisters listenin' to that big assed girl from The Parkers. She tellin' ya'll that it's OK to be big and unhealthy, but let Pearl be the first to tell you that it ain't! Ya big, ya fat, ya nasty and sittin' your frumpy ass at home watchin' tv, poppin twizzlers and fun dips ain't doin shit to get your man back!

Mo'Nique already got money, baby - so weight is not an issue for her because she can if she ain't got a man... she can buy herself one, so don't let her convince you that ain't nothin wrong with being big! So while she's at home with the one that bank account bought, she's tellin' y'all to stay big - while that same "skinny bitch" you hatin' on, got your man and gone.

Y'all gon' miss ya man lettin' somebody convince you that obesity is cute. Secondly, I know what this is about, you want me to tell you that your husband is cheating so that you can be "relieved" - and I'm gonna give you exactly what you want: KeKe, yo man got him a skinny bitch, believe that! He don't want to make love to you because all that extra ass was not a part of the agreement.

But you knew he was cheating anyway, didn't you? - You bitches kill me pretending that you don't know your man is cheatin'... you know what's happening, but you lost your ability to reason when you got a house, a Mercedes and a closet full of clothes - and I ain't gonna lie, that's a lot of incentive to make you lose your ability to reason.I don't mean to be rude, but you know Auntie just tells it like it is... ain't no hard feelings, just get your coat and take you a piece of that hard candy out of that bowl on your way out.

With love,

Ayntee Pearl

If you want advice from Miss Pearl send her an email to misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

Hey Babies,

Y'all know Ayntee Pearl nosey as hell! So, I'm interested in the bombshell's that took place at your dinner tables this Thanksgiving. Y'all know damn well that every year, some bitch is confronted for sleepin' with somebody's husband. Somebody comes out of the closet.

Somebody tells the family that they're pregnant by the fifth man in 6 years. Somebody got drunk and before the day was over, furniture is moving, cranberry sauce, dressin' and weave is all over the floor.

Email me your stories and I'll post them on the site - names withheld, of course!
Send them to me at: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

Hey Miss Pearl,

I'm having an issue and I really need your help. I'm in college and my freshman year I met a beautiful man named Charles. Charles is really cool and we're from the same area of the country.
There was a girl in my dorm that liked him as well and told us that he liked her too so I stepped back. They had sex a few times and she said she wanted him but he didn't want her. Later on, we found out that she has some DEEP issues and tries to attach herself to any man that will give her some attention so he probably didn't like her freshman year but she just said that to get me to step back.

This year, I stopped being friends with the girl because she's a trifiling heffa and I began seeing Charles. Am I bad person for this? She wasn't in a relationship with him and I enjoy been with him so much. Thanks boo and I LOVE your blog!

~Confused in the dorm
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Dear confused,

Rapper T.I. says evidence collected in the federal weapons case against him and statements he made to authorities were illegally obtained.

Attorneys for T.I., whose real name is Clifford Harris Jr., filed motions Monday in U.S. District Court in Atlanta seeking to suppress evidence seized from the vehicle he was in when he was arrested on Oct. 13 and statements he made to authorities on the day of his arrest.

The attorneys allege that the vehicle was searched without a warrant, consent or probable cause. They also allege that Harris' detention might not have been proper, statements he made to authorities may not have been voluntary and agents may have failed to honor his rights.

The motions did not elaborate on the basis for the legal challenges, but said more details would be filed later.

There was no immediate ruling by a judge. A spokesman for federal prosecutors, Patrick Crosby, said in an e-mail to The Associated Press that his office would respond in court.

Authorities say that about an hour before a scheduled performance at the BET Hip-Hop Awards in Atlanta, Harris showed up in midtown to buy unregistered machine guns and silencers. He already had three guns in his car – one of them loaded – when he was arrested, authorities say.

Harris, 27, faces up to 10 years in prison and a $250,000 fine for each of the weapons charges against him.

He is currently free on bond, but is under house arrest. A pretrial conference is scheduled for Wednesday.

Harris had asked to host a Thanksgiving Day gathering at the home where he is staying, but the plan was scrapped after the government opposed it. His bond conditions require court approval of visitors. A charity event he is sponsoring to give turkey dinners to the needy will go on Thursday, but Harris won't be there, according to one of his record labels.

The funeral may have been completed, but the case is still on going, and so does the investigation. Hours after a funeral service for Dr. Donda West was performed, Jan Adams, the Los Angeles plastic surgeon who operated on her one day before her sudden death, took the seat at CNN's "Larry King Live" for a scheduled interview only to tell the talk show host he's walking off because Kanye West's family asked him not to appear on the show.

Dr. Jan, who initially agreed to speak with King to set the record straight on what he claimed as inaccurate reports about him in the news media concerning Donda's death, abruptly walked off the show, argued "I have a tremendous amount of love and respect for the West family and they have asked me not to go on. And I've said from the very beginning, I don't have a side in this. They are my side and so I'm going to respect their wishes."

Being asked by the TV host if he would ever answer questions surrounding Donda's death, Dr. Jan said "When they're (the West family) comfortable, then I'll be comfortable. If they're never comfortable, then I'll never be comfortable. They are what's important to me. I said that from the start and that's what I'll continue to honor."

In related news, People has offered readers a sneak peek on the interview it has had with Dr. Jan about the events surrounding Donda's death, including a detailing of his lawsuits, plus interviews with his former patients and more from Dr. Jan himself. Read all on People's latest issue, hits newsstands Friday November 23rd.

Dr. Donda West passed away in Los Angeles on Saturday night November 10th. She was 58. Preliminary indication suggested that she died of cosmetic surgical complications. Donda's funeral was performed Tuesday morning November 20th at the True Vine Ministry church in her native Oklahoma City.

Jay Z debuts his latest video featuring Diddy, Mariah, Jadakiss, Larry Johnson, Freeway, Cassidy, Nas...<-- Nas? OK, whatever... check it out:

LOS ANGELES - Several new defendants including record executive Marion "Suge" Knight may be allowed into the wrongful-death lawsuit brought by the family of murdered rapper Notorious B.I.G., a federal judge tentatively ruled.

U.S. District Court Judge Florence-Marie Cooper ruled Friday the lawsuit could be amended because of newly discovered evidence. An earlier lawsuit ended in a mistrial in 2005.

Aside from Knight, the new defendants could include former police officer Rafael Perez and other current and former members of the Los Angeles Police Department.

B.I.G., whose given name was Christopher Wallace, was 24 when he was gunned down March 9, 1997, while leaving a music industry party at Los Angeles' Petersen Automotive Museum. The New York rapper was one of the country's most popular hip-hop artists, and theories have proliferated for years about who might have been behind his murder.

His family filed a wrongful death suit seeking damages from the city. It accuses the Los Angeles Police Department, and specifically Perez' former patrol partner, David Mack, of responsibility for Wallace's death.

Mack and Perez have both long denied any involvement in the killing. Thomas Reichert, an attorney for the city, said Monday the new evidence was "old wine, new bottles."

Calls to Knight attorneys Laurence Strick and Daniel J. McCarthy were not immediately returned Monday. New evidence shows Perez was on duty the night of B.I.G.'s slaying and may have been at the scene, Cooper wrote.
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OK, I know Voletta Wallace loves and loved her son, but why is she OBSESSED with filing lawsuits in this matter?

The ONLY reason Ayntee Pearl is asking this question is because I want to know how many people who have blasted Fred Goldman for wanting to financially punish OJ Simpson, (the man he believes killed his son) for being money hungry - feel the same way about the Wallace family?

Don't shoot the messenger, I'm just here to be fair and balanced. I tell you the shit you NEED to hear and not necessarily the shit you WANT to hear... talk amongst yourselves.

Dear Miss Pearl,

I have been in a relationship with a man now for about 2 and a half years and almost everything is perfect...We just had a baby about a year ago and we both have 1 child from a previous relationship. For the most part our communication is great, except when it comes to the children.

The rare times that we have a disagreement it is because of something dealing with one of the children. When we first got together I noticed that he was having a problem getting close to my daughter. He was very hesitant in being a father to her, so I brought it up to him and he said that he didnt want to take her fathers place in case he starts to do right and he wanted to give her father a chance since this is all so new to him which I could understand.

After a while he changed and he accepts my daughter to a certain point. I know that he loves her, its just that I think he comes down hard on her sometimes. For instance his daughter is 3 and mine is 6. When my daughter does something wrong he jumps all over her but when his daughter does the same thing he brushes it off like its nothing and says that she is just "being silly". I am really having a problem with this because when we talk about why he is like that, he asks me why am I always comparing the two kids to one another. I do it so that he can see that he is being unfair.

Whenever we get into an arguement about his daughter he starts comparing what she does to what my daughter does. When I ask him why he is comparing the kids he gets mad and comes up with some bs excuse and flips everything around on me. I am really in love with this man and I believe that we are meant to be with each other. But the whole situation with us always disagreeing about the kids is getting old and it is placing a strain on me.

My daughter will always come first and even thought I dont believe he acts this way on purpose this is going to have to change. What do you think is the best way to address this issue with him and actually get him to understand that we are all one as a family? Whatever goes for one must go for the other.

Mama Bear
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Dear Mama,

I know you may think that your problem is uncommon, but it really isn't. Problems with blended families are nothing new. I suspect that your man's problem is one of ignorance and not necessarily in a bad way, but more in terms of simply not doing better because he doesn't KNOW any better!

The thing you have to understand is that no matter how many times you tell him, he's simply not going to get it and for no other reason other than the fact that it's coming from you. Think of it in terms of your sister not listening to a damned thing you say to her about her life, her relationships, or her children, but, even though you've said it ten times, the minute one of her friends tells her the EXACT same thing you've already told her, suddenly she just got some GREAT advice that she's "never heard before".

It's probably going to take a third party to show your boyfriend that he is making a difference in the kids. I've always said that people don't see themselves from the outside in. I did a little experiment with one of my crackhead nieces a few years ago. When "Nay Nay" wasn't on that stuff, she was the nicest, smartest, most intelligent woman I know, but when she was on that shit? She was the loudest, thievin'est, lyingest, ghetto bitch you ever wanted to meet.

One day when she was on that stuff, I pulled out my video camera and video taped her standing on the corner, piss running down her pants leg, and begging strangers for change, and when she was sober, I invited her into my house (I still had my eye on the bitch, though) and I let her watch herself... she couldn't believe it. She was appalled, ashamed and angry that she was looking at herself - the woman on that video was someone she didn't recognize. She was so angry, so ashamed, and so appalled that she told me that if what she saw on that tape was what WE saw for all of those years, then she knew that she needed help - and she went to rehab the next day... two relapses later, my niece hasn't been high in over two years - Amen!!!

What I suggest you do is sit down and try to talk to your boyfriend and explain to him how you feel when he makes a difference in your child and tell him how it could be making your daughter feel and then ask him if he's open to taking some parenting classes specifically designed for blended families.

If he's ok with that, then I suggest you call the local welfare department or Child Protective Services and ask for some free courses and allow them to direct you. If that doesn't work, you need to keep a video camera or tape recorder handy and record him as he disciplines your child and then record him when he deals with his child - get enough on tape to actually make a POINT though, before you present it to him. Be VERY careful about how you approach him with it, because approach could make or break you here.

If he still won't change... chuck his ass the duece, get your kids and move around. You can't let that baby grow up and be scarred for life, desperate for ANY attention from a man simply because her MAMA was whipped. At some point you have to draw a line in the sand, and I ALWAYS drew one when it came to my children.

Keep me updated on what happens.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, contact me at misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

MINEOLA, N.Y. — The estranged wife of a pastor claims her husband blended his professional and personal finances so thoroughly that his church should be counted as an asset in their divorce.

A judge agreed in a decision published this week to hear arguments on the claim, and he ordered a financial appraisal of the church. Lawyers said it could represent the first time anyone in New York state has tried to treat a religious institution as a marital asset.

The wife argues that her husband of 31 years used his Brooklyn church as a "personal piggy bank," setting his own income, spending the congregation's tithes as he pleased and running a catering business from the building, according to the decision by state Supreme Court Judge Arthur M. Diamond. The couple's names were redacted from the decision.

The wife said $50,000 of the couple's money went into starting the church, and that the church property is partly hers.

"That church is no different than any other business he might have opened," said the wife's lawyer, Robert Pollack.

The pastor maintains he is simply a church employee, and the institution's funds should not be considered his, according to Diamond's decision.

"My client can't own the church," said the minister's lawyer, Eleanor Gery.

A message left at the church was not immediately returned early Friday.

Former Atlanta Falcons quarterback Michael Vick turned himself in to U.S. Marshals Monday to begin serving time on his sentence to be handed out in December for a dogfighting conspiracy charge.

Vick was transported from the U.S. Courthouse in downtown Richmond, Va., to Northern Neck Regional Jail in Warsaw, Va.

"This matter is before the Court after Defendant Michael Vick has indicated his desire to voluntarily enter custody prior to his sentencing hearing. It appearing appropriate to do so, the U.S. Marshal is ordered to take custody of the Defendant immediately upon his surrender," according to an order filed in U.S. District Court.

Vick and his associates pleaded guilty over the summer to a federal dogfighting conspiracy charge. The pro-football player was suspended by the NFL and scheduled to be sentenced Dec. 10. He faces up to five years in prison.
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If I were Vick, I’d opt to do this too. I’d rather get my business in order and then report, because with “good-behavior” and time served – he may end up doing three months after he’s sentenced, or, if he’s lucky, he may simply get credit for time served and walk out of court a free man.

Now, I have a bit of advice for T.I., T.I.P. or whoever he is this week: Don’t you try this shit! You go to jail early if you want to, your ass will walk into prison thinkin’ you’re comin’ out “early” on the back in and get picked up in a flying Honda Accord… enjoy your time as a free man while you can, Shug. It'll be a LONG time before you see that lil short, light skinded, Miss Piggy lookin' chick again. I ain't lyin'.

I had SUCH high hopes for Melinda Doolittle as she appeared on American Idol. From the very first time I saw her audition, I knew she was going to make it to the top 5 if nothing else (and Pearl was right, again)

Where is she, and why hasn't she been snatched up by some "industry savvy" PR person who got in contact with somebody who got in contact with somebody to get her a record contract and put that voice behind a track to "save music" the way we had HOPED Jennifer Hudson would have?(that's another story for another day). Why isn't she on broadway wearin' somebody's stage out? Why isn't she being considered to replace Fantasia as Miss Celie in the Color Purple? (yeah, yeah, I know, Celie was ugly, but she had a neck... but still)

I even searched like hell and found it difficult to find an official myspace page for Melinda. (Paris Hilton's dog has a myspace... why not Melinda?) I'm very afraid that this girl will go down in history like so many other talented black women who weren't given the right material and promoted properly like Kelly Rowland, Monica, Chante' Moore or Stephanie Mills and we'll all be worse off for it.

I know she didn't win, but ranking amongst the top 5 all time American Idol voices should net her SOMETHING, shouldn't it? Kelly Pickler has a CD Bo Bice has a cd, Diana DeGarmo had a cd, hell Justin Guarini's funny lookin' ass had a couple of cd's... why doesn't Melinda Doolittle?

Is it because people don't believe she's really singing because you can't sing without a windpipe and you can't have a windpipe with no neck? Well damnit! That's not true! If Florida Evans could put them orange beads around HER shoulders, Melinda Doolittle can sing!

Since "mainstream" media ain't givin my baby no love, here's a whole cupful for my baby from Ayntee Pearl... enjoy:

"I'm a Woman"


Melinda Doolittle
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"I Believe in You and Me"


Melinda Doolittle - I Believe in You and Me
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"Home"


Melinda sings Home then Paula cries
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Dear Miss Pearl,

I might potentially have a problem so I need your help. I met this man back in August. We've been talking and visiting each other since. Actually we've only seen each other twice since Aug. At first he was really attentive, calling and texting me.

Now, he could go all weekend or two or three days during the week without talking to me. We live two hours away from each other, which isn't really long distance, but to me it seems like it's out of sight out of mind. When we have seen each other he's all over me telling me how much he misses me, but now seems as if he's not interested anymore even though he says that's not the case.

The two times we have seen each other I've been the one to travel. My friend says I shouldn't go to see him again until he comes to see me. I don't think it's a big deal. I just want to know if I'm wasting my time. He just always has a bunch of excuses for everything. Whether it's coming to see me or why he hasn't called. It's just always something.

He says he doesn't celebrate X-mas, birthdays, or valentine's day. What a convenience.
After that I wanted to be through but everyone insists on me giving him a chance.

Do you think I'm wasting my time?

- Patiently waiting
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Dear Patiently,

I'm not sure how long you plan on being patient, but if you're waiting on this one to come around, you'd better get comfortable. The first thing you need to do is not listen to those confused bitches you call friends. On one hand, they're telling you the right thing by suggesting that you not go visit him again until he makes an effort to come and see you, and the next they're insisting that you "give him a chance" - If you're already lost as hell, the last thing you need is some even more confused asses leading you.

You say you met this man in August, and you've only physically seen him twice since then, so I'm not sure what he did to make you lose your mind so quickly in the first damn place. I guess re-reading your OWN detailed summary of this non-existant relationship wasn't enough, so you need me to reiterate what you already know, or maybe you just need a third party to break it down for, well damnit, here you go:

Music Best:

Angelica:

Ralphreizon:

Chidima:

Nominees are shown for each category; winners are shown in bold. Nominations were determined by record sales and airplay as tracked in the publication Radio and Records. For the first time American Music Award history, winners were chosen online by fans.

POP/ROCK
· Male artist: Akon, Timbaland, Justin Timberlake
· Female artist: Beyoncé, Fergie, Avril Lavigne
· Band, duo or group: Linkin Park, Maroon 5, Nickleback
· Album: "Daughtry" (Daughtry), "Minutes To Midnight" (Linkin Park), "FutureSex/LoveSounds" (Justin Timberlake)

COUNTRY
· Male artist: Toby Keith, Tim McGraw, Brad Paisley
· Female artist: Martina McBride, Taylor Swift, Carrie Underwood
· Band, duo or group: Big & Rich, Brooks & Dunn, Rascal Flatts
· Album: "Let It Go" (Tim McGraw), "Me And My Gang" (Rascal Flatts), "Some Hearts" (Carrie Underwood)

SOUL/RHYTHM & BLUES
· Male artist: Akon, Ne-Yo, T-Pain
· Female artist: Beyoncé, Fantasia, Rihanna
· Album: "B'Day" (Beyoncé), "Double Up" (R. Kelly), "FutureSex/Love Sounds" (Justin Timberlake)

RAP/HIP HOP
· Male artist: Fabolous, T.I., Young Jeezy
· Band, duo or group: Bone Thugs-N-Harmony, Pretty Ricky, Shop Boyz
· Album: "Strength & Loyalty" (Bones Thugs-N-Harmony), "T.I. vs. T.I.P." (T.I.), "The Inspiration" (Young Jeezy)

ADULT CONTEMPORARY
· Artist: Daughtry, Norah Jones, John Mayer

ALTERNATIVE
· Artist: Linkin Park, My Chemical Romance, the White Stripes

LATIN
· Artist: Daddy Yankee, Juan Luis Guerra y 440, Jennifer Lopez

CONTEMPORARY INSPIRATIONAL
· Artist: Casting Crowns, Jeremy Camp, tobyMac

SOUNDTRACKS
· Album: "Dreamgirls," "Hairspray," "High School Musical 2"

BREAKTHROUGH
· New artist: Daughtry, Plain White T's, Robin Thicke

SPECIAL AWARDS
· T-Mobile Text-In Award: Carrie Underwood
· International Award: Beyonce
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Not sure how many of you checked out the show, but it was what it was for an awards show. I guess I'm over them. It seemed that the opening of the show was a Will.i.am, concert. (Question, who is the person who put the word out that Will is the man to be in music these days? He's even getting props for being tapped to produce a track for Michael Jackson's long awaited album... but why? Reall?

On another note, I did, however want to check out Beyonce's performance because I was curious as to why she was being billed as a "special" appearance - It's not like she's Michael Jackson or someone who hasn't been overexposed for the past 4 years, she's EVERYWHERE... so, I wondered what Matthew Knowles promised the people at the AMA's in an effort to get her "special" billing.

And then it happend, once again, she felt the need to copy another artist, this time, mimicking Jamie Foxx's Country Music Award duet with Rascal Flatts, by doing a laughable country version of "Irreplaceable" with country group, Sugarland only Beyonce's didn't quite go off as well. It was a TOTAL disaster! I kept waiting on someone to come onstage to say that it was actually a really bad joke - but when I realized that they were serious - I was too through!

You be the judge:

I just thought that this video was too cute! Why was Betty actually dancin' on beat to Beyonce' and Jay Z's "Crazy in Love"? LOVE it! I figured Niece Pam would love this one too,since she look like Betty Boop with Dreds:

Now THIS is comedy! I'm just confused as to why he felt the need to go so far as to steal another man's photos and pretend to be him in order to hook up with women, when from what I can see as the camera's chased his ridiculous ass down the street, he wasn't even an unattractive guy himself.

What REALLY was the point? See, I've always suspected that men who use photo's of other men to get with women have a little twinkle in their ass anyway. How, as a straight man do you discern what's sexy when you decide which pic of another MAN you're gonna use? He has to find a man that HE thinks is attractive in order to believe that women will find him attractive as well.

And for that matter, what the hell do you say when the women show up lookin for Rick Fox and Dennis Rodman shows up?

National evangelist Juanita Bynum is late on her property taxes again, according to the Ware County tax assessor's office.

She owes $31,863.39 in property taxes on her sprawling $4.5 million compound in South Georgia.

"They were due yesterday," said Ware County Tax Commissioner Steve Barnard Friday.
This is the second time in as many months Bynum has missed the deadline for paying the taxes on her 30-acre, lake-view property in Waycross.

Last month, Barnard threatened to auction off the land because of the pastor's past due bill.

Bynum said the property was purchased to house the headquarters of Juanita Bynum Ministries and the Mt. Olive Country Spa for women seeking pampering, prayer and spiritual guidance. According to Bynum, her lawyers had applied for a tax exemption on the property, but the deadline for the property taxes came before the paperwork was complete.

Taxes for that property were paid in mid-October after penalties had been added to the bill. However, the check for $33,000 presented in payment, was not from Bynum, said Barnard Friday.

"It was from New Light Church World Outreach Ministries ... out of Houston, Texas," Barnard said.

Barnard said he did not know why the church paid the bill. He said the money cleared the bank.

A call to New Light's pastor Dr. I.V. Hilliard of Houston was not returned Friday afternoon.

If Bynum's new tax bill is not paid today, late fees will begin to accrue at a rate of 1 percent per month — or about $318 — until the debt is paid off.

Another 10 percent penalty — $3,186 — will be added on the tax bill when it becomes 90 days late.

Bynum, who is planning a Valentine's Day conference to address domestic violence issues, could not be reached for comment. Her publicist Amy Malone said she was unaware that the tax bill was late.

The 48-year-old pastor has accused her estranged husband, Thomas W. Weeks III, of beating, choking and stomping her to the ground in an Atlanta hotel parking lot in August.

The couple has since filed for divorce in Gwinnett County.

Weeks, who denies the beating, was charged with felony aggravated assault, terroristic threats and simple battery in connection with the alleged attack.

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Now, I wonder if the good parishoners over at New Light are aware that the monies that they give to the church are being handed over to feed the obviously over-indulgent lifestyle of someone who CLEARLY can't afford to live that way?

See, I have no problem with pastors of mega churches being paid as if they run a multi million dollar organization, because clearly they do! However, I have a BIG problem with you feeling like you need a 4.5 million dollar compound, particularly when you don't have the funds it takes to maintain it. I don't have a problem with T.D. Jakes living in a mansion because he sells hundreds of thousands of books and CD's, in addition to making a LOT of money for speaking engagements... where I draw the line is the "leader" of these people, many of whom can't afford to pay their light bills, yet they continue to do what is "expected" of them by paying tithes and giving offerings, pulling up in front of these people driving $300,000 Bentley's.

The people of the church can't SEE your home unless invited, so it's not as "in your face" but there is seriously something sacriligious about the pastor driving a car that cost more than three times the average home. HE should be ashamed to do that to his parishoners!

Dear Auntie Pearl,

I have this guy, "T", that i have been dating for about 15 months and i really do love him he has been wonderful. He has taken on the father role in my 21 month old son's life without question and complaining. His family has adopted us into their own and i love all of them to pieces.

He is helping me with school, day-care fees, bills, etc... My son's real father was murdered when he was about 7 months old. At the time My son's father and i were still together but we were going through a very hard time in the relationship. A few months before that is when i met "T", and we both went in saying it was nothing serious just friendship well needless to say it became a bit more and eventually my sons father and i were completely off.

When he died a piece of me died with him but being with "T" brought my spirits back up. He was right there for my son and i through it all. We fell in love and it was great for a while but lately he has started to really trip the hell out on me and it's nothing but arguments and sex but mostly arguments.

To make matters a whole lot worse my best male friend of about 8 years (who "T"does not like) has started to tell me that he wants to be with me and he is very persistent. Back in high school this friend and i had sex twice but decided that friendship would be a whole lot better than being together. And it has worked up until now.

The thing is I have started to have feelings for him, but how do you go from brotherly type of love to having feelings for someone? "T" and I are on bad terms but i don't want to let it go just yet because i know every relationship has it's problems at one point or another. I love him to death and i want us to work because he is a wonderful man.

What should i do about this friend though? When it all boils down to it i still don't want to lose his friendship, but should i tell "T"? If i do he would want me to stop talking to him all together, but like i said i don't want to lose his friendship but i do feel my family is more important. How do i keep both in my life without ruining either relationship?

- Kaylen
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Dear Kaylen,

You have a couple of issues. Some stick out like a sore thumb, others not so much. I say it over and over and over again - self esteem ladies, SELF ESTEEM!

Here's the elephant in the room that you know is there, but won't acknowledge; typically, I try to do a bit of editing of these letters to prevent redundancy, grammatical errors, etc. Before I even got to the "meat" of your letter, I saw something that I knew would require attention.

You didn't capitalize not ONE, single "I" in your letter.... not one, and that's very telling, baby. When I was paroled back in '81, I went through YEARS of therapy and I observed that people who don't capitalize "I" when referring to self, instead choosing to use a "small" i, are subconsciously conveying how they view themselves. Even in writing, you refuse to describe yourself as "big"... you're not a small "I", you're the BIGGEST "I", and you need to start your route to "self esteem road" with that very small, but very big thing.

The problem is that you're a hoe! Plain and simple, Shug. I'll never understand women who get with a man who treat them like queens, take care of home, take care of children who aren't theirs and at the first sign of trouble, these ghetto hoes are ready to run!

I"m SICK of this shit! If the birth father were still alive and not doing a damn thing for the child, you'd probably still be trying to get with him, but here you have a man who is stepping up when he doesn't even HAVE to, and you don't want to be bothered?

He's paying the bills, helping you through school, paying for your child's daycare and playing daddy and you're ready to jump ship because your "friend" said he wants to be with you? This is what I see, you're with "T" now, and the way you GOT with him was that you started creepin' on the side while you were with the baby daddy after things hit a rough patch - so stop lyin' to yourself with that "friend" shit, 'cause Pearl ain't buyin' it!

It looks like now that things with "T" are hitting that same rough patch, you've found yourself falling your friend of eight years? HOW? Baby, anybody friends that long who touch each other need to be arrested for incest, I don't give a shit how you try to clean it up.

It's like you're not giving yourself room to grow to love Kaylen - have you EVER had any "down-time"... was there EVER a point where you were not with anyone and just had time to fall in love with KAYLEN? Looks like the minute you feel things getting a little crazy, you're ready to find a replacement so that the transition is a smooth one and you're NEVER really alone.

Get over that silly shit - you're a grown assed woman! Are you REALLY so desperate to be with somebody in case this thing with "T" doesn't work that you're looking to FRIENDS as potential mates? LISTEN, just because you have a male friend and you get along and things in the FRIENDSHIP are great, doesn't mean that you have to give him a sample. Some people, male and female, are in your life for a reason and that reason may not have anything to do with a sexual relationship! He sampled it in high school - now tell him to reminisce and sit his ass down somewhere.

If you love "T", then you need to sit him down and tell him what you are feeling, tell him that you're worried about the relationship and try to work it out. If it doesn't work out, then leave and work on YOURSELF before you jump into something else with ANYbody else.

If you and "T" decide to work things out, you need to have the same respect for your relationship with him that you would like for him to have for you. Ain't no pickin up stray men and putting them in your back pocket in case some shit happens and there DEFINITELY ain't no "friends" who would are trying to get with you.

Would you feel good knowing that some female "friend" of "T's" had been trying to get with him all along, and he still kept her around, "developing feelings" for her the whole time while leaving you in the dark?

"T" is doing a whole lot for you and if he is willing to work things out, you'd better get his ass before I do. There are plenty of women who would LOVE to have a responsible man like him. Get caught slippin' and see what happens. You'll look up and Miss Pearl will be sittin' on his mustache, I ain't lyin'.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, contact me @ misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

Check out a clip of Alicia's newest single featuring rapper Common - I'm loving the look of this video and Alicia won me over in the very first scene as she emotionally stepped into the hosptial. I'm guessing it was written that way, but it made me want to know what the rest of the video was about.

*Disclaimer* Listen, not that I owe you ungrateful bitches a damn thing, but I feel the need to let you know that this story has NO bearing on the way Ayntee Pearl views the Jena 6 situation, or anyone involved, but I feel like this is a valid story and for that, I feel an obligation to report the news from all angles... so anybody who has a problem with the following story can get my teeth out of that jar in the kitchen, put em in your mouth and kiss my ass widdem!

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HOUSTON - Just weeks after some 20,000 demonstrators protested what they decried as unequal justice aimed at six black teenagers in the Louisiana town of Jena, controversy is growing over the accounting and disbursing of at least $500,000 donated to pay for the teenagers’ legal defense.

Parents of the “Jena 6″ teens have refused to publicly account for how they are spending a large portion of the cash, estimated at up to $250,000, that resides in a bank account they control.

Michael Baisden, a nationally syndicated black radio host who is leading a major fundraising drive on behalf of the Jena 6, has declined to reveal how much he has collected.

Attorneys for the first defendant to go to trial, Mychal Bell, say they have yet to receive any money from him. Meanwhile, photos and videos are circulating across the Internet that raise questions about how the donated money is being spent. One photo shows Robert Bailey, one of the Jena 6 defendants, smiling and posing with $100 bills stuffed in his mouth.


Another shows defendants Carwin Jones and Bryant Purvis modeling like rap stars at the Black Entertainment Television Hip-Hop music awards last month in Atlanta. The teenagers’ parents have strongly denied that they have misused any of the donated money. Bailey’s mother, for example, insisted that the $100 bills shown in the photograph were cash her son had earned as a park maintenance worker.

But civil rights leaders who helped organize support for the youths say they are concerned about the perceptions that are spreading. “There are definitely questions out there about the money,” said Alan Bean, director of a Texas-based group, Friends of Justice, who was the first civil rights activist to investigate the Jena 6 case. “I hate to even address this issue because it inevitably will raise questions as to all of the money that has been raised, and that is going to hurt the defendants.”

SAN FRANCISCO - Barry Bonds was indicted Thursday on perjury and obstruction of justice charges, culminating a four-year federal investigation into whether he lied under oath to a grand jury looking into steroid use by elite athletes.

The indictment came three months after the 43-year-old Bonds passed Hank Aaron to become baseball’s career home run leader. Bonds parted ways with the San Francisco Giants after the season.

While Bonds was chasing Aaron, a grand jury was working behind closed doors to put the finishing touches on the long-rumored indictment.


The Bonds indictment is 11 pages long, and includes five counts, and the perjury involves an interview he gave on Dec. 4, 2003, when he denies that trainer Greg Anderson gave him steroids, NBC News reported Thursday. There are four counts of perjury and one count of obstruction of justice.

Dear Miss Pearl,

I have been on your site for a while and I would love your advice on this matter. I have an ex boyfiend, that I have remained friends with despite the fact that he put me through a lot of drama. He stood me up on Valentines day, and he cheated on me with an ex girlfriend which resulted in a miscarriage.

I've tried to remain friends with him despite the fact that he lied when I asked if he would get back with me. He told me he wouldn't because things weren't right for him.

He also said the only person he would be in a relationship with would be me because he really doesn't want anyone else yet; I found out that he has a girlfriend.

Everyone says I should just leave him alone.

What do you think I should do?

Careful...
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Dear Careful,

Excuse me for a minute while I make this public service announcement, "Come one, come all!!! All African American women with low self esteem -today is your day!!! Wanda Faye Busby, Gertie Gail Booker, Juanita Julkes, Hattie Mae Glenn and board president, the one and only, Miss Pearl Ann have a message just for you":

Today, we announce the formation of a non-profit organization for women just like you... yes, I'm talkin' to you, hoe. Women who don't knew when to say when, women who don't know where love starts and love of SELF begins. We, the Anna Mae Bullocks of the world have a blessing for you!!!

Yes, we're talking to YOU Kelly Rowland, who don't know when to tell Matthew Knowles, "I love you... but I love ME more!"... Yes YOU, Oprah Winfrey, ye who don't know when to tell the people within the African American community who blast you for not being "black enough" to "kiss your black ASS!" Yes, YOU, Janet Jackson who doesn't know when to get madder than a mf' and just go slap the hell OFF on people for questioning your thrown and your worthiness of having it in the first place! Yes, even YOU Remy Ma, who has refused to get as ghetto as I KNOW you can, for not getting mad and wind millin' the shit out of the bitch who convinced you that the blonde bang would be cute! And finally, YOU, Fantasia Barrino, Serena Williams and Jennifer Hudson, each for spending all that money on a stylist, but STILL lookin' like Lay Lay's mama bought your outfits at the $7.00 store and then did your hair and make-up in front of the stove in the kitchen."

Posse up bitches...it's time to "take your lives back" - the group is called, B.B.B.B.B&B.B.B.B.T.S.B.B... the primary goal for Gertie, Hattie, Wanda, and myself is to get you hoes together and then; Bring a Baseball Bat Bruisin', Batterin' & Beatin a Bitch Black & Blue 'til She Bout it, Bout it! (B.B.B.B.B&B.B.B.B.T.S.B.B.)

NOW.... back you, Miss Careful (I know I digressed, but only for a moment)

I don't know HOW many times I can say this, but I'll try it one more time before I get REAL tired and have to cuss - and y'all know Miss Pearl ain't the cussin' type. (Sigh) Girl, he is an EX boyfriend for a reason... if he wasn't treatin' you the way you needed to be treated while you were WITH him.. what's gonna make him do right AFTER you've left him? Shug, if a COMMITMENT to you wasn't enough to make him "ack right" then ain't no WAY giving him some as a SINGLE man is going to be incintive.

He left you on Valentines day, cheated on you with his ex, and now YOU are the ex that he's cheating with. He made a baby - which more likely than not means that he wasn't wearing any protection and that he could have brought you more than a baby, if you get my drift...., he told you that YOU are the only person he would want to be in a relationship with - and then you found out that he has a girlfriend and your response is... "I tried to be friends with him... what should I do?"

What in THEE hell do you need with a friend like that? If HE's your idea of a friend, someone would have to put your ass in a coma to become an enemy, wouldn't they?

Meetings start on the 15th....I'm spent!

Every now and then, Ayntee Pearl is sittin’ around drinkin’ a beer and playin bid whist with my girls Hattie and Gertie ‘nem and random shit just pops into my head. I never knew what to do with these thoughts, but I figured that since I’m doin this blog thing I may as well put em up in case some of you may have some of the same random assed thoughts.

Here’s a new section I like to call: “Pearl’s Passing Thoughts – Randomness”

• Since we have never had a black nor a female president… why won’t Hillary and O’Bama sit down and decide which one will run for president and which one will be the running mate so we can get both?

• Since Salt is all churchified and Coko is all sanctified, why won’t Pepa get together with Lele and Taj from SWV and form an R&B group and Coko and Salt get together and form a gospel group?

• How can Hollywood have more than 10 writers to strike when every show on television is a reality show?

• With all the money she has… why won’t Mariah buy an outfit that fits?

• Does Beyonce’ do #2? (and does it stank?)

• Can I get ONE cell phone company that has everything I want instead of each one having something I need?

• Can Martin bring back Shenaynay with her own show?

• Should T.I. just wait on his trial and stop insulting our intelligence by pretending that he is innocent?

• Does Hattie know I can see the tag on her wig?

• Is there any food greater than home fried chicken wings and hot sauce?

• Are there any weedheads who believe that weed is a drug?

• When them dumb bitches go on Maury and embarrass themselves, do they really have to be 5 THOUSAND percent sure when all it takes is 100%?

• Why does Walmart have 40 registers and never have more than 7 open?

• When you’re running late, why do you get stopped by EVERY red light, but when you need to grab something off the back seat… why is every light green

Diddy was spotted in West Village yesterday lookin' like a drag queen who hasn't quite figured out if he wants to be 50 Cent or Beyonce'.... I"m shame for this monstrosity!

Michael Jackson has been soliciting opinions about his dying career from strangers in the music business.

Sources over at the luxe and private Chinese eatery Mr. K’s on Lexington Avenue in New York report that Jackson and his lawyer Peter Lopez have been meeting with various executives trying to figure out how to restart his dead career.

Sources at the fancy boite say that Jackson and Lopez had at least one meeting at Mr. K’s on Oct. 26, the same day this column broke the news that the singer had defaulted on a $23 million loan secured by his Neverland Ranch. Despite proclamations to the contrary, the default is still in effect today.

Jackson, even though his financial world was crumbling, seemed just fine, insiders say.

At the meetings, Jackson has expressed interest, I am told, in doing business with Starbucks’ Hear Music as no regular record company wants to work with him.

“He said, My friend Paul McCartney did that,” says a source, and dropped names of other rock stars who’d be surprised to hear themselves described thusly.

McCartney, especially, despises Jackson for buying the Beatles song catalog out from underneath him 20 years ago.

One curious thing that came up in the talks: Jackson may not be proceeding with the "Thriller" 25th anniversary album featuring Kanye West, Akon and will.i.am that Sony is expecting from him, but thinking of using tracks done by those producers as the basis for a new album.

A fly in that ointment: the pending lawsuit brought against by Prince Abdullah of Bahrain, who claims that Jackson owes him two record albums for which he was already paid $7 million.

Hey Aunt Pearl,

I read your blog everyday and I know without a doubt that you can help me. I have been involved with the same man, Keith, for about 3 years. We aren't in a real relationship, but he comes over to my house frequently and we chill, watch t.v., cook and just hang out around the house.

There have been a few occasions when I have asked him to take me out to dinner or to a movie and he always obliges. However, just before its time for us to leave, he either won't show up or he'll call and tell me he has to reschedule. It has been 3 years and we've never been anywhere in public together.

It's not lookin' good for the doctor who performed surgery on Kanye West's mother, Donda, who died this week. It seems that former patients from every possible angle have come forward with horror stories from leaving a sponge inside one patient after surgery, to getting another pregnant! And then there's the restraining order from an ex-girlfriend.

Well, to Miss Pearl's beautiful brown eyes, it looks like it's a wrap for Dr. Adam's medical career after this public relations fiasco... there is really not way to recover from this. See stories courtesy TMZ below:

Patient Claims Dr. Adams Sponged Off Her
Another patient of Dr. Jan Adams sued him for malpractice, alleging he left a foreign object in her body.

In a lawsuit filed in Los Angeles County Superior Court, Lori Ufondu claims that in 1996, she underwent breast augmentation by Dr. Adams. In 2003, she underwent revision surgery by another doctor, who discovered that a surgical sponge was left, she claims by Dr. Adams.

Ufondu claims the sponge and its belated removal caused a distortion in her appearance, creating a deformed right nipple, a puncture wound, loss of sensation and "horrific scar tissue."

Following Dr. Adams' surgery, Ufondu claims she was feeling "sharp, needle-like pain in the area of this scar tissue." She says she complained to Dr. Adams, who allegedly responded "by laughing in a derisory fashion, claiming that the pain would subside."

Ufondu obtained a judgment in excess of $100,000. Her lawyer tells TMZ the Doctor has not paid and he's trying enforcement the judgment. Her lawyer adds that there are several outstanding judgments against Dr. Adams, who has ignored his obligation to pay.
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Patient Claims Dr. Adams Got Her PregnantIn another stunning lawsuit, a patient of Dr. Jan Adams claims he got her drunk after surgery, had intercourse with her and got her pregnant.

In a lawsuit filed in Los Angeles County Superior Court, Teana Lucas claims she was a bartender and Dr. Adams was a customer. She says he agreed to perform liposuction on her upper arms and abdomen. The plaintiff, an aspiring model and actress, alleged as the procedure was about to begin, Dr. Adams "whispered in plaintiff's ear that he 'loved' her, that he was 'going to marry her."

According to the suit, after the procedure, he started making house calls to her home. On November 24, 2004, the suit alleges Dr. Adams told her she should get dressed and that he was taking her out for dinner. After three glasses of wine, the heavily-medicated plaintiff claims she was "heavily intoxicated." That's when, according to the suit, Dr. Adams took her to his house and had sexual intercourse with her. Lucas claims she became pregnant and Dr. Adams wanted her to keep the baby but she didn't.

Eventually, she says Dr. Adams referred her to an OB/GYN who could "take care of the problem."Lucas also claims he botched her two surgeries. She sued for sexual battery and malpractice.Adams denied all the allegations, but settled the case.
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Dr. Adams' GF Gets Restraining Order
TMZ has obtained documents filed by Dr. Jan Adams' ex-girlfriend, claiming alcohol brings out his "Jekyll and Hyde" personality.

The papers, filed in L.A. County Superior Court in 2002 by Deborah Pratt, seek a restraining order, claiming, "Defendant has an unfortunate drinking problem and unless restrained immediately, will assert the worst side of his 'Jekyll and Hyde' personality when he is intoxicated."She goes on, "Defendant is very attached to my children and he has been abusive when intoxicated in their presence, so he must stay away from them, also.' She claims that on occasion he burst into her home, threatened and chased her in his car.

Dr. Adams filed papers denying the allegations. The judge granted the restraining order.

I've been waiting for this video to be posted on youtube. Who would have known that Jamie and the lead singer of Rascal Flatts were college roomates?

Hell, who would have known that Jamie Foxx went to college with his crazy ass?

• Alicia Keys: (R&B) "As I Am"


• Boyz II Men: (R&B) "A Journey Through Hitsville, USA"


• Aretha Franklin: (R&B) "Jewels in the Crown - All Star Duets With the Queen"


• Shaggy: (Reggae) "Intoxication"


• Bone-Thugs-n-Harmoney: (Rap) "T.H.U.G.S."

They've been called the Kenyan Mafia. Now, an international investigation has been demanded to uncover if a squad of police-organized headhunters are responsible for killing as many as 450 members of the despised Mungiki gang since this summer.

Here's what is known. Gang members have been turning up dead by the hundreds, many killed execution-style and then dumped around Nairobi. The morgues are full of what is know as the "Mungiki menace."

The Mungiki sect has been blamed for terrorizing central Kenya for decades. Their gang activities have held a police-like control over the slums of Nairobi using extortion, and butchering and decapitating those who stand up against them.

This summer, police cracked down on the gang. The battle left at least 100 dead. Some say the violence did not end there. "People were arrested in a crackdown against (Mungiki) and have never been found. Relatives say they disappeared without a trace and they don't know if they are dead or alive," Irungu Wakogi, who owns a restaurant in Mathare, Kenya's second largest slum, told The Associated Press.

The sides are divided on who did what. Some Kenya activists are saying police, who deny any wrong doing, need to be investigated by international experts and the United Nations. Police have called the allegations "irresponsible" and "arrogant".

But, The Economist magazine reported that police have failed to answer the main charges: why the lack of a proper investigation, why the execution-style of the killing, and why so many dead?

The independently run Kenya National Commission on Human Rights (KNCHR) said it carried out a credible investigation, but the police refused to discuss it, Reuters reported.