Dear Miss Pearl,
My name is Gayle and my friend Louise is a real good
person, but she has the tendency to lie a lot. I'm talking about big detail lies
that one would believe. For example she has lied about her having cancer she has
also lied about us taking trips out of town and on the day of the trip she
doesn't even answer her phone.
I know you might not think of this as a
big deal but its starting to take a toll on our friendship. She lies even more
when me and my other friends confront her, and now she says shes at the point to
where she doesn't care because shes tired of us not believing what she
says.
What should I do about this
friendship?
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Dear
Gayle,
I know exactly
how you feel, I have two nieces, Wanja and Angie who will lie between two drops
of rain. Wanja still tryin to convince me that that helmet on her head that she
calls a hairdo, didn't come in a bag with a free can of
Aquanet!
But I
digress - Gayle, you have to ask yourself if your friendship with lying assed
Louise is worth not being able to believe - or more importantly, TRUST anything
that she says.
A
friend is someone you confide in, someone who confides in you. You share
intimate details of each others lives and you ask for advice - the way your
friendship with Long Island Lyin' Louise is headed, it's not fair to you. You're
confiding your deepest darkest secrets to Louise, but she's not doing the same
with you because she's making her entire history
up.
She lied about
having CANCER - that in and of itself says that she is deeply troubled. Most
people make up a history, tend to have an issue with their own reality. She
obviously suffers from low self esteem, so if you are truly her friend (and not
at your wit's end yet) then you should approach her about her lying ways and let
her know that you are there to help her in any way that you can. If not, you're
going to have to let go and move
around.
Personally, I
would tell her exactly how I feel, and then let her know that she won't hear
from you again until she learns how to be more honest in her communication with
you. I know that it's going to be hard, but now is the season to let go of
bullshit and
drama!
You may not
feel doing SAYING it, but you'll feel much better after DOING it. No more living
life for other people, it's time to let go.
If you want
advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com
That's a sickness that if she doesn't want to confront you can either sit there and let her make a fool of herself or walk away til she can get it together. I know people like that. They make stuff up so much they begin to believe their own lies.
ReplyDeleteA friendship built on lies is no friendship at all.
ReplyDeleteWanja ? ? ?
ReplyDeleteShe wants attention.
DeleteI think for starters you can grow up, this sounds like a letter from a 15 year old. Simply put find new and real friends. Let her take her lying tail on before you have bigger isues like...her lying abt her sleeping with your boyfriend.
ReplyDeleteU need 2 devalue your friendship w/ Louise. Make your plans where they can be done w/ or w/out her.
ReplyDeleteDont let your success depend on what she does. If necessary give up the friendship. All indications it will be her lost.
Girl ruuuuun.... I had a friend just like her and she lies so much, the kids started lying. The whole family is known for lies. She will put your name in some stuff you cannot get out of.. Believe me, leave this girl alone. You can still talk to her, but do not hang out with her. Birds of a feather flock together. People will start thinking you lie to... Think about it, but think about it running away from her.
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