Dear Miss Pearl,
My brother Richard has always dated white women,
actually, a better way to put it is that he's always dated any woman except
a black woman. He makes all of these ridiculous excuses about why he won't
date black women, but then comes home with the most homely, trailer park "other"
women he can find.
He won't date a college educated sister, but he'll
bring home a 250lb white woman with five children????? I often get on my brother
about his choices in women, but he's not trying to hear it. I don't really care
that he chooses to date outside of his race, but it's the fact that he totally
and automatically excludes black women that bothers me so much.
problem here is that he has started dating another white woman who, when she
gets mad at him, calls him the n word! The first time I heard her say it, my
mother had to prevent me from beating her ass. And my brother tried to fight ME
instead of being mad at that tramp.
Is there anything that can be done to
make my brother see that he doesn't have to choose these type
Unfortunately, your brother is the type who will
take a drug addicted white woman before dating a sensible black woman any day.
There is something within him that suggest that African American women aren't
worthy of his affection, and that's something that mom and dad should have
investigated years ago.
How can he honestly believe
that black aren't good enough for him when, at minimum, he has a black sister
and mother? Your brother has an issue that many African American men suffer from
- the belief that anything is better than a sister. I'm never one to be
prejudiced against people because I hate everybody equally and I've never had a
problem with interracial dating, but like you, I will question the motives of
people who date outside of their race exclusively.
your brother likes trailer park trash, that's his taste in women and he should
be entitled to that. He can no more choose your men for you, than you'll be able
to choose his women for him, BUT... to date a white woman who calls him a
ni&&er and then want to fight you for being offended when he
should have been the first one to grab her by the throat suggest that he ain't
wrapped too tight.
Just like we all had that crazy
family member that we ignored in the past before they started assigning labels
to them in the 90's, your brother has a problem - ignore him. You don't have to
like what he does to love him. But by no means am I suggesting that you have to
accept or deal with his girlfriend. They say when you're drunk and angry - the
truth comes out.
To hell with her, let your brother
deal with that shit - mind your own business!
If you want advice
from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: email@example.com