Monday, July 16th - Dear Miss Pearl...

Dear Miss Pearl,

I am 31 years old and I have been best friends with Audra since junior high school. Three years ago, Audra messed around with my boyfriend, Keonte' and got pregnant. When Keonte' told me that Audra was pregnant, I put his ass out and stopped speaking to her.

Eventually, I forgave them both and let Keonte' move back in. Now, I am not only God-mother to Audra's son, but I'm also his step mother. Miss Pearl, I honestly feel in my heart that they have started messing around again. Every time my boyfriend comes into the house, Audra gets a mean look on her face and whenever I show her something that he bought me, she acts like she's happy for me, but I can tell that she's pissed.

The other day, he came into the house and kissed me (which he never does) and Audra was sitting at the table. She just walked out the house without saying anything. When I asked Keonte' what was going on, he said nothing, but I don't believe it.

The problem is, I'm pregnant, and I haven't told my boyfriend. Should I stay in this relationship and keep my best friend even though I think she is messing with my boyfriend?

Marleisa
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Dear Marleisa,

You dumb as hell!! First off, how the hell do you continue to go shopping and invite to your house for tea - the woman who not only made a baby with your boyfriend, but called herself your best friend while doing it?

You let this chick continue to come back into your house around your man and you knew that she wasn't shit? Girl, sit your ass down somewhere - you deserve whatever you get! When you put his ass out the first time, you should have made him STAY out. And when you got rid of her, you should have moved on with your life!!!

Why would you want to be step-mother to a child that would remind you everyday of one of the most painful events in your life? Not that the baby has anything to do with what the ADULTS did, but I would have removed myself from that situation IMMEDIATELY and let Audra and Keonte' have that!

You were desperate for a friend and a lover, and they knew it - that's why they're doing exactly what they did the first time.

See, there are two types of "intuition", one where your conscience tells you something just ain't right. The other is "into wishin'" and that's when all of the signs are there, the writing is on the wall -but your dumb ass is into wishin that it's not!

Don't ask me if you should stay in these relationships, because if you have a baby, you are bound for life - deal with it. They showed you what they were about and you put yourself back into that situation - oh well.

Maya Angelou said it best; "When someone shows you who they are - believe them!"

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com