Dear Miss Pearl,
I have a good friend, Taria who is a really good friend
and I love her dearly my only issue with her is that she won't control her two
children. No matter what setting we are in, and no matter how much of a
"controlled" environment it calls for, her 4 and 6 year olds have free reign to
do as they please.
It bothers the hell out of me that I sit back and
watch as we're in high end stores and people are looking at us like some
ignorant "n words" because her children are climbing on furniture, unfolding
clothes, playing hide and go seek under the racks, etc.
staring while Taria is totally oblivious to the drama that her children are
creating. I have made the mistake several times of asking them to behave in
another friends home (because people were talking about them in another room)
and Taria got so upset with ME that she left me at the party even though I rode
Here's the problem: My mother and father went to Paris and
brought me back a crystal vase that cost $3,000. I cherished this vase because
my parents went there on their 35th anniversary and my mom convinced my dad to
buy THREE, one for me, one for them and one for my brother and his
Well, two weeks ago, Taria and her children were at my house and
her kids were acting a fool. She let her oldest son come IN my house bouncing a
basketball and I specifically told him not to bounce the ball in the house
because I have a lot of breakables. Taria rolled her eyes and got sarcastic when
she told him, "Put that ball up before you break something up in this
Ten minutes later, I heard a loud crash and I thought I was
going to die when I walked into the room and that bad assed little boy of hers
had broken my vase into a thousand pieces!
After I calmed down, I told
Taria how much it cost and that I intended to be paid for it. She went off
saying that I SHOULD have had insurance and that she would have paid the
deductible. I agreed that I should have had insurance, but I hadn't gotten
around to it yet, so I even agreed to allow her to pay me half ($1,500) she flat
out refused and is telling people that I am trying to make a fool out of her,
even though I showed her the receipt.
What should I do now?
vase - and spirit
you read all of the stories on Pearls Window today, you should log your ass on
to the website of the city in which you live, and find out the procedure for
filing a small claims lawsuit and you should wear your ignorant assed, EX friend
out! And if I were you, I'd sue for the ENTIRE $3,000!
You're better than
me, because had she AND her son not needed medical attention after I walked into
that room and saw my vase on the floor, she DAMN sure would have needed it after
being bold enough to tell me that I should have had
Taria has an issue that a lot of people have today; not
disciplining their bad assed children, and that's ok, they don't have to - in
THEIR homes, but when you come in mine, you'll conduct yourself as a respectful
VISITOR, or it'll be your last visit.
Now, let me say that you
deserve some fault for this as well, because it sounds like you've known
for a long time that your friends kids were zoo animals and she wasn't doing
much zoo KEEPING, but you continued to allow them into your home, so,
if you don't sue for the entire $3,000 - $1,500 would be admirable of you. I say
do the entire 3k though, for no other reason other than the fact that she seems
to not give a damn about anybody except for her and her children.
her that you're going to take her to court, and if she still refuses to pay up -
follow through with your small claims suit, OR call me and tell me where she
works and I'll meet her in the parking lot and clothesline that hoe 3,000
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: email@example.com