Dear Miss Pearl,
I am a 32 year old gay woman and I have been out for the
past 5 years. My parents know about me, as do most of my friends and co-workers.
The problem I have is my mother. I just recently went to her job and found out
that she has a picture of me at my sister's wedding three years ago on her desk.
Miss Pearl, I was in the picture with my escort for the wedding.
I asked
my mom why she had that picture on her desk and she told me that she liked it.
Later in the office, her manager told me that whenever I broke up with my
BOYFRIEND, I would make a great girl for her son!
I am FURIOUS that my
mother hasn't told her co-workers that I am gay. It's apparent that she's
ashamed of me, and I haven't talked to her in two weeks. My sisters say that I
am overreacting, but I think I am justified in being angry with her.
How
should I approach my mother after she's betrayed
me?
Leslie
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Dear Leslie,
You
should approach her by saying, "Mom, I'm sorry for being ignorant, and since I'm
a butch lesbian, I'll come over to wash your car, cut the grass, and retile your
kitchen this weekend to make up for it!"
Girl, sit your ass down
somewhere. You didn't say that your mother told people that you were straight,
you said that she DIDN'T tell people that you were gay - and why should she have
to?
You don't go around telling people that your mother is STRAIGHT, do
you? Your mom is in a professional work environment and there is no room in the
office for discussions about the sex lives of our adult children
there.
Does it mean that your mother is ashamed of you because she
doesn't tell people that you're gay? No more than it means that you are ashamed
of your mother when you don't walk around the office advertising that SHE is
straight! Is there a REASON for that conversation to take place within the
office, and if so; when, why, and where?
I'm not sure if your mother is
ashamed or not, but it's definitely time for the two of you to have a
conversation. You need to voice your concerns to her. Find out where she is
emotionally before you allow your own insecurities to take over your common
sense.
Talk to your damn mama and tell her how BELIEVING that she's
ashamed of you makes you feel. You might find out that she's not ashamed of you
after all.
If not, challenge her to a duel... I know how you lesbians
like to fight!
Now, take this box of candy cigarettes and put it into the
lapel pocket of that flannel shirt and sit your ass down somewhere!
If
you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com
Get over it and take your cooch eating self to counseling. You are sick. You are lucky your mom is even talking to you. She had a daughter, not a son. Get a clue. Disgusting.
ReplyDeleteWhy exactly does your mother have to tell her coworkers that you are gay? I don't get it. Does she tell her coworkers that her other daughter is straight or (if) her son is straight? I don't get why gays always want everyone to know they are gay. Who cares. Does it even matter unless you are eating out some random broad? Jesus is coming soon. All this gay stuff is just gross.
ReplyDeleteCall me homophob if you want, but you can also kiss my arse.
U should start by shuttin the fuck up! Are u really that comfortable with ur sexuality? Cuz it seems like ur tryna get the world, including ur mothers job to except you! You are who you are and that's okay, but that women doesn't have to parade around shouting "my daughter is gay, my daughter is gay." Stick a pipe I'm it dumbass
ReplyDeleteIt's not your mother's business 2 go around telling your life style. U are overreacting. U are trying 2 force on mother something she doesnt want. So back off & just try 2 have a simple mother/daughter elationship.
ReplyDeleteSit your azz down. U cant make mama do what she doesnt want 2 do.
ReplyDeleteThere was no reason for her to announce to co-workers that you are a lesbian. It's her workplace not yours. There is absolutely no reason to discuss the lives of her grown children with her co-workers. It's obvious your open about your lifestyle and that's ok, but you don't have the right to try to force everyone else to be open about your private life. She didn't lie. She just didn't offer unrequested information.
ReplyDeleteYou can't control who she tells at her workplace no more than she can control who you tell at yours!!! You are worrying about the wrong sh*t!!!!
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