Dear Miss Pearl,
My aunt Faye had cancer but married her boyfriend
Kenneth a year before she died. (She passed away one year ago this August.) They
didn't have any children, but they dated for three years.
Aunt Faye and I
were always really close, and Melinda, her daughter from her first marriage, is
like my sister. The problem is that I ran into Kenneth at a gas station about
six months after Faye died and we talked about what is going on in his life
since he moved away after Faye died. We have been talking on the telephone since
we met that night, and I have gone to visit him twice.
Miss Pearl, I
think I am in love with Kenneth and he tells me that he loves me too, the only
problem is our families. I recently called Melinda and told her that I had met
someone that I really loved and she told me that she couldn't wait to meet him
since I have always talked about getting married someday. Well, I told her who I
was in love with and she totally lost it and tried to fight me.
wrong for doing nothing more than falling in
wrong for being dumb as hell, that's what you're wrong for! Do you honestly
expect anybody in your family to accept that you've decided that, with all
of the men on the planet - your dead aunts husband is the one you've decided to
fall in love with?
It's true in most cases that you can't control who you
fall in love with, but your ass should have stopped this mess before it got
there! You're a grown assed woman and you should have been astute
enough to recognize that your relationship with your UNCLE was taking a turn
that it shouldn't have and that you were crossing a line that no uncle and
niece should ever cross!
Do you really plan to marry your aunts
husband, and if you have children, what do you plan to tell them about
the photos of their father in wedding pictures with another member of
the family? Can you really be this dense?
Of course Melinda wanted to
whoop your ass - I want to whoop your ass! Did you really
expect her to be happy to find out that the man you've fallen in love with
is her dead mother's husband?
I feel sorry for you in that you've
honestly fell in love with this man, but I also feel sorry for you in that you
don't realize that what you're doing is going to tear your family apart. How is
your mother going to react to the fact that you're dating her sister's
I say step back while you can because otherwise you're going to
drive a wedge between your family, and you can always find a man - you can never
find another family.
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email