Thursday, July 5th - Dear Miss Pearl...

Dear Miss Pearl,

My aunt Faye had cancer but married her boyfriend Kenneth a year before she died. (She passed away one year ago this August.) They didn't have any children, but they dated for three years.

Aunt Faye and I were always really close, and Melinda, her daughter from her first marriage, is like my sister. The problem is that I ran into Kenneth at a gas station about six months after Faye died and we talked about what is going on in his life since he moved away after Faye died. We have been talking on the telephone since we met that night, and I have gone to visit him twice.

Miss Pearl, I think I am in love with Kenneth and he tells me that he loves me too, the only problem is our families. I recently called Melinda and told her that I had met someone that I really loved and she told me that she couldn't wait to meet him since I have always talked about getting married someday. Well, I told her who I was in love with and she totally lost it and tried to fight me.

Am I wrong for doing nothing more than falling in love?

Myesha
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Dear Myesha,

You're wrong for being dumb as hell, that's what you're wrong for! Do you honestly expect anybody in your family to accept that you've decided that, with all of the men on the planet - your dead aunts husband is the one you've decided to fall in love with?

It's true in most cases that you can't control who you fall in love with, but your ass should have stopped this mess before it got there! You're a grown assed woman and you should have been astute enough to recognize that your relationship with your UNCLE was taking a turn that it shouldn't have and that you were crossing a line that no uncle and niece should ever cross!

Do you really plan to marry your aunts husband, and if you have children, what do you plan to tell them about the photos of their father in wedding pictures with another member of the family? Can you really be this dense?

Of course Melinda wanted to whoop your ass - I want to whoop your ass! Did you really expect her to be happy to find out that the man you've fallen in love with is her dead mother's husband?

I feel sorry for you in that you've honestly fell in love with this man, but I also feel sorry for you in that you don't realize that what you're doing is going to tear your family apart. How is your mother going to react to the fact that you're dating her sister's husband?

I say step back while you can because otherwise you're going to drive a wedge between your family, and you can always find a man - you can never find another family.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com