Dear Miss Pearl,
I have a co-worker who I'm friendly with, but not best
friends. In fact, we really only talk on the job. We have each others numbers,
but we don't really use them often.
I've hung out with her, but it was
always an office gathering where we all got together at the same time for
someones birthday or some other event. Marquita is a nice enough girl, but she's
very messy and is always talking about how many men she's messed around
From what I understand, she was living with her sister and she had
sex with her sisters boyfriend. Supposedly it was to prove to her sister that he
was a dog. Well, the sister found out and now Marquita has to move out and has
asked me if she can stay with me for 30 days until she can save up enough money
to get back on her feet.
Miss Pearl, I live with my boyfriend, and we do
have a second room, but I don't know if I want Marquita around my boyfriend. Not
that I don't trust him, but you never know.
Why won't Marquita move in
with one of her other friends, or someone that she is a little more familiar and
friendly with? It's not like we are friends, why would she put me in this
She chose you for a couple of reasons, the first being that
she's worn out her welcome with everybody else and she's now resorted to asking
for handouts from literal strangers, and the second reason is that she knew that
you were just dumb enough to contemplate allowing her to live with you without
telling her shiftless ass no from the gate!
Why would you even be silly
enough to think about allowing somebody you barely know to come live in
your house with you and your man - when she's already proven that she ain't shit
by sleeping with her sister's?
You're gonna prove that your sister's
boyfriend ain't no good by sleeping with him? The problem with that theory is
that she said the sister "found out", if she was planning to sleep with him to
prove a point, then she would have told her. How the hell do you
find out something that was done so that you would find out?
Girl, you fell for that? No wonder she messed with her sisters man and then
asked you to come live with you and yours -you dumb as hell, girl!!
suggest you tell her straight up, "Girl, you a hoe, and you can't live in my
house with me and my man because if you'll sleep with your sisters, you'll sleep
with mine!", and then point that hoe in the direction of the nearest homeless
If you don't have the backbone to say that (and I suspect that
you don't) then do the diplomatic thing - and lie. Just tell her that your
boyfriend isn't comfortable with someone coming to stay with the two of you, and
you are not going to risk your household to save her from a situation that she
got herself into.
After you do that, please get yourself a backbone,
you'll need it.
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