Dear Miss Pearl,
My friend Zada is getting married in September and her
good friend Demitress is supposed to be the maid of honor. She asked me to be in
the wedding and of course, I accepted because I love her to death. My issue is
that I know for a fact that Demitress has messed around with Zada's fiance and I
don't know if I should tell her or not.
Zada is the type of girl who has
always dreamed of having a lavish wedding. She's talked about being a bride
since we were high school students. But even though Zada is the type of person
who wants to be a wife, she's also the type of woman who gets mad at people for
telling her stuff about her man.
I don't know if telling Zada about her
boyfriend cheating with her maid of honor is worth losing our
Should I tell Zada about her man, or should I just grin and
walk down the aisle?
You have to
do what you feel in your heart is the right thing to do in a situation like
this. If you feel like losing your friendship with Zada is going to clear your
conscience, then by all means, tell her. Personally, I feel like your friend is
definitely going to blame you for the fact that her wedding plans fell
Women who get
mad at other people for telling them about their men often get mad because they
already know what type of men they attract and hearing about his dalliances
often does little more than confirm what they already know and it embarrasses
Zada knows what
kind of man she has, and honestly, I can't feel sorry for women who date men
like that. I don't know if she knows what's happening with her maid of honor and
her fiance, but I suspect that she knows that he's a
situation, I say stay quiet because Zada has put it out there that she turns on
the person who reveals information about her men and since she's put it out
there... she has to deal with the fact that people may very well see things and
keep it to
of teetering on the edge with this one. Maybe you should listen to your cousins
on this one. I've been wrong one other time in my life.
Kids, what do y'all
think? Should she tell her?
If you want advice from Miss
Pearl, send me an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org