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Wednesday, July 25

Wednesday, July 25th - Dear Miss Pearl...

Dear Miss Pearl,

I have a huge problem. I have been dating a guy for 8 months and even though I realize that he's never going to be husband material, I can't help that I've fallen in love with him. He has four kids by three different women, and from what I understand, doesn't do much in the way of child support, and he hustles to make ends meet.

I don't really require him to take care of me because I can take care of myself. The problem is that I have gotten pregnant and I don't want to keep the child because my goal in life was not to end up a "baby mama".

My family doesn't really believe in abortions, so I can't go to my sister or my mom, but what do you think I should do with this baby? Should I have it, or should I rid myself of this "issue" before it's too late?

Terri
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Dear Terri,

You kinda dumb ain't you? You don't want to be a baby mama, but you're having unprotected sex with a man who has made babies with at least three other women? What did you expect to happen?

You have a number of issues, the first one being the you're having unprotected sex in 2008 with a man who has apparently made it a practice to practice unsafe sex. And indigative of that is the fact that he's made four count em, four babies that he apparently didn't want. You're lucky that you didn't wake up to more than a missed period, little girl - so, instead of callin' on Pearl, I'd be callin' on God right about now.

You don't want to be a mother, yet you don't want to protect yourself from getting pregnant? And to add insult to injury, you've gotten pregnant by a man who not only doesn't have a job, but doesn't take care of his OTHER four children? Are you alright, boo? You don't seem to be that bright to me.

You need to sit your ass down somewhere. I have a rule as it relates to abortion: I don't believe in them - for me! That means that I would never abort a child of mine, but I would never have input as far as what someone else should do with hers. I can't help you. All I can tell you to do is to weigh your your pros and cons and make your decision from there, because if you're waiting on me to help you make the decision to have an abortion - you can keep waiting because it's not going to happen.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: Misspearlswindow@yahoo.com

6 comments:

  1. Please fall down the nearest flight of stairs....

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  2. This letter is 4 years old... I wonder if she had the baby...

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  3. Hmmmm, Doesn't really seem that uncommon to me. MOST women won't admit to it openly- but there's a large number (Really large number) that this type of situation applies to.

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  4. U must not have been around very long because otherwise U would known Ayntee's position on abortions.
    How could U have been so stupid. U knew what type Boo U were dealing w/. Now U have a baby in the mix. Use protections or keep your damn legs closed.

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  5. So many womem are having babies and dont want them, mistreat them, kill them, abuse them,... Then you hwve women who hearts desires to have a baby to Love, and can't have a child.... Why???, you are Blessed , give that baby a chance to live, if you don't want him or her , Adoption is always an option instead ABORTION.

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  6. Yeah, unfortunately hun, you made some bad decisions for the sake of self-interest in this case.... We've all been there before. Maybe not to THIS severity, but we've all played the fool...Refused to let go of somethin that felt good, but wasn't good for us. Unfortunately, your situation is just a lot deeper because unprotected sex, and now a baby, is involved. Seek God's guidance dear heart. Pray, then do what your heart tells you, no one else. God Bless.

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