Dear Miss Pearl,
My son Bernard is 19 years old, handsome, great student
and a wonderful all around person. The problem I have is that his girlfriend is
a disrespectful slut and I hate her. She is only 18 years old and has told me
that Bernard is her FIFTH boyfriend!
This girl is from the wrong side of
the tracks and I keep telling my son that he needs to concentrate on college and
leave this burgundy haired little girl alone, but he won't listen to me. I found
out that my son had sex with his last girlfriend (the only other one he's ever
had) because I found a condom in his pocket and he broke down and confessed that
they had been having sex.
The problem I have is that I find it hard to
believe that this girl has had five boyfriends and hasn't had sex with all of
them. I have tried to warn my son about women and how they try to trap young men
with potential by getting pregnant, but he doesn't listen to a word I
I don't want my son ending up with a girl who has had five men at 18
and she's not even in college, she works in a call center! What can I do to
convince my son that he should find a nice girl in college and leave this girl
alone because my husband won't help me?
Dear Mom in hell,
Girl go to
hell! Just what makes you so sure that a girl who has had five boyfriends has
had sex with all five of them? She's 18, I'm surprised that she hasn't had
more than five.
Do you know how many boyfriend's I'd had by the
time I turned 18? Do you know how many, "I like you, do you like me? Please
circle yes or no" notes I passed around class? Girl please, I would have a
boyfriend and quit his ass because another boy had a cuter lunch box.
need to mind your own damned business, what's the problem with this girl working
in a call center? I'm sure plenty of Pearl's readers work in call
centers and I hope they rip you a new ass - everybody isn't college material,
and not everyone has the means to attend college. I commend her for
getting up and going to work every day. You don't know what her future plans
are, do you?
I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but you can't
call this girl a slut because you think she's had sex with a bunch of men while
you're looking at your son as if he's an angel! You said yourself that you only
found out that St. Bernard had sex after you found a condom and
confronted him - so, it's not like you have this open, honest relationship where
he came to you to talk about his sex life. You know about that one
girl because you ran up on a condom, Missy!
Your boy has probably
had sex with more than his girlfriend - you just don't know it. I say
mind your own business. If you've raised your son to be a good person who uses
common sense, then you've equipped him with the tools he'll need to make wise,
conscious decisions - back the hell up!
When do you have time to worry
about your own husband? In the real world, your son will probably go
through five more women before he decides to settle down and that's how it's
supposed to be. You're supposed to date to decide who you want to be with and
not get with one person and marry them because someone else thinks you
should - that's how people get married and divorced so quickly.
is a young man, let him enjoy that. Just teach him to be safe and don't
interrupt unless you honestly believe that he's making some bad
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org