Dear Miss Pearl,
My husband
cheated has cheated on me for the third time in our eight month marriage and I'm
truly fed up. The first time he messed around, it was with the parent of one of
his students. (he's a middle school teacher). The second time it was with
another teacher at the school and this last time, I found out that he was
messing around with a 22 year old girl who works at the grocery store we go to
(and the only reason I found that out is because the girl started making little
nasty comments when I would come in there) when I finally asked her what was her
problem and she told me that "my husband provides for her car note every month!"
and then told me that he was with her the night
before.
When I went home and checked
the dirty clothes, he did have on orange and white Polo underwear, so I
knew that there was no reason the cashier at the grocery store should know what
my husbands underwear looked like. He had told me that he was going to be at his
weekly poker game and even asked if I wanted to go, so I had no reason to
believe that he wouldn't be there.
Miss
Pearl, I can forgive the first two, but I don't know if I can deal with this
last girl. I'm 38 years old and I want a husband who is all mine, not a man I
have to share. Should I go to counseling with him, or should I just cut my
losses while I can?
PS: He admitted
that he stopped by the grocery store and gave the girl a ride home because she
was leaving when he got there, but says he didn't have sex with
her.
Exhausted
Wife
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Dear
Exhausted Wife,
Your ass ain't
exhausted from the right shit, that's your problem! If I were in your
shoes, I would be exhausted from windmillin' my husband until his nasty ass fell
unconscious! Just how much of this mess can you take before you realize that
you're better than that? Eight months of
marriage??
Come on, girl - you can't
tell me that a man whose cheated 3 times in his eight month marriage wasn't
cheating prior to the ceremony! If he's that weak with his
game, there ain't no way in hell he just got weak. You knew who he was
as you were walking down the aisle with his worthless ass, but you thought that
a wedding ring was a magic wand and once you slid it on his finger, all would be
well on the planet you live on - Welcome to
reality!!
This message is for you and
every woman who believes that marrying a man will change him: If he ain't shit
before you marry him, unless some miracle happens - most likely, he
won't be shit after you marry
him!!
I can't tell you what to do with
this brief marriage of yours, but it seems like you're between a rock and a hard
place. See, I don't advocate divorce too often because only you know what you're
willing to deal with, but, as I've said before - you know exactly what
you're dealing with and making excuses won't change a damned thing! She told you
that he pays her car note, didn't she? So, whether he pays the note is
irrelevant - she admitted to having a car!!! Why did he need to give
her a ride home?
Ask yourself a few
questions: 1) Are you really tired? 2) Do you need him? 3) Do
you love him more than you love yourself 4) If cheating 3 times (that you know
of) in 8 months of marriage isn't enough to show you just what he thinks of the
vow that he mad to you and to God - what will it take for you to accept
the reality of your marriage?
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me
an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com
This fool is hopeless and will stay with this bum. She'll get pregnant and catch a disease, like his other hoes.
ReplyDeleteCut your losses while U can. Better to waste 8 months than 8 years. Let he dog go.
ReplyDeleteHun, you betta ruunnnnnnn!!!! I mean run like hell and never look back!!! First things first, love you first cause had you done this in the first place you wouldn't allow yourself to go through this foolishness! Phuck a eight month marriage, get out before it turns into eight years! #imdone
ReplyDelete