Dear Miss Pearl,
Lenora asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and I readily agreed because
she's a really good friend. We used to work together a couple of years ago and
as "thick" girls we had a little in
Well when the wedding started
getting close Lenora changed and started going off and cursing people out on a
regular basis. One time I had to work late and was 30 minutes late for her
wedding rehearsal and she cursed me and one of her aunts out so bad that I cried
when I got back into the car.
apologized and said that she was just stressed so I forgave her. One day she
came to me and asked me to help her with her invitations and when I showed up,
she gave me ALL of them and TOLD me to type them up and put them in the mail.
She showed up at rehearsal one day and then announced that we were not working
the way that she felt we should be so she let everyone know that I would be in
charge even though I had to pick up my son from the babysitter.
When we tried on our dresses, she
announced that anybody who didn't lose weight by the time the wedding came would
be out. Well, the day of the wedding, I put on my dress and in front of all of
the bridesmaids, her mother, aunts and the wedding planner she cursed me out and
said that she told me that she wouldn't let me be in her wedding with "rolls"
under my arms. She called me every lazy, fat bitch in the book while telling me
that "all" she asked me for was to "stop eating so much and lose weight" for HER
At that point, I had had enough
and I walked out before the wedding started and didn't care how her wedding
proceeded. I'd had enough humiliation. My cell phone kept ringing after I left
but I refused to answer. I haven't talked to her since, but she has left me
emails and voice messages talking about she's going to beat me up (I paid for my
own dress and shoes).
I'm not going to
let anyone put their hands on me, but I want to know if I should apologize to
her for leaving the wedding party without
Lenora can kiss my
ass! You don't owe her a damn thing. It's one thing to be anal about your
wedding because most brides are, but you're in an entirely different place when
you start getting disrespectful and Lenora crossed the line when she talked
about y our weight in front of a roomful of people.
How the hell can this strumpet tell
you about being overweight, when the one thing the two of you have is
common is "thickness"? If she's a fat ass, what gives her the right to
try to humiliate you about your weight? She knew how much you weighed when she
asked you to be in her wedding - your problem is that you didn't cuss
her ass out the day she told you that you'd need to lose weight. How much did
she lose for the ceremony? And if she lost some, good for her, but
she's not in a place to tell someone else how they should
To hell with Lenora. If you
feel like you should apologize to her, then apologize for walking out on
her day, but honestly - I feel like she owes you an apology first! Now,
as far as the threats go, keep those messages and if that hoe puts her hand on
your, put some "weight" behind your fist and knock her "skinny" ass
I'm sorry, I don't believe in
brides thinking that they can be disrespectful to people who are there to
You weren't wrong. I
would have left too.
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me
an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org