Thursday, August 23rd - Dear Miss Pearl...

Dear Miss Pearl,

My friend Lenora asked me to be a bridesmaid in her wedding and I readily agreed because she's a really good friend. We used to work together a couple of years ago and as "thick" girls we had a little in common.

Well when the wedding started getting close Lenora changed and started going off and cursing people out on a regular basis. One time I had to work late and was 30 minutes late for her wedding rehearsal and she cursed me and one of her aunts out so bad that I cried when I got back into the car.

Later she apologized and said that she was just stressed so I forgave her. One day she came to me and asked me to help her with her invitations and when I showed up, she gave me ALL of them and TOLD me to type them up and put them in the mail. She showed up at rehearsal one day and then announced that we were not working the way that she felt we should be so she let everyone know that I would be in charge even though I had to pick up my son from the babysitter.

When we tried on our dresses, she announced that anybody who didn't lose weight by the time the wedding came would be out. Well, the day of the wedding, I put on my dress and in front of all of the bridesmaids, her mother, aunts and the wedding planner she cursed me out and said that she told me that she wouldn't let me be in her wedding with "rolls" under my arms. She called me every lazy, fat bitch in the book while telling me that "all" she asked me for was to "stop eating so much and lose weight" for HER day.

At that point, I had had enough and I walked out before the wedding started and didn't care how her wedding proceeded. I'd had enough humiliation. My cell phone kept ringing after I left but I refused to answer. I haven't talked to her since, but she has left me emails and voice messages talking about she's going to beat me up (I paid for my own dress and shoes).

I'm not going to let anyone put their hands on me, but I want to know if I should apologize to her for leaving the wedding party without notice?

Quiana
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Dear Quiana,

Lenora can kiss my ass! You don't owe her a damn thing. It's one thing to be anal about your wedding because most brides are, but you're in an entirely different place when you start getting disrespectful and Lenora crossed the line when she talked about y our weight in front of a roomful of people.

How the hell can this strumpet tell you about being overweight, when the one thing the two of you have is common is "thickness"? If she's a fat ass, what gives her the right to try to humiliate you about your weight? She knew how much you weighed when she asked you to be in her wedding - your problem is that you didn't cuss her ass out the day she told you that you'd need to lose weight. How much did she lose for the ceremony? And if she lost some, good for her, but she's not in a place to tell someone else how they should look.

To hell with Lenora. If you feel like you should apologize to her, then apologize for walking out on her day, but honestly - I feel like she owes you an apology first! Now, as far as the threats go, keep those messages and if that hoe puts her hand on your, put some "weight" behind your fist and knock her "skinny" ass out!

I'm sorry, I don't believe in brides thinking that they can be disrespectful to people who are there to support them.

You weren't wrong. I would have left too.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com