Tuesday, August 14th - Dear Miss Pearl...

Dear Ayntee Pearl,

I'm 18 years old and I graduated high school in May. I dated a guy named Wenton for two years and I was really in love with him. He is going away to school in New York, and I tried to get into the school, but didn't get accepted so I decided to go to another school in North Carolina.

I tried to get Wenton to come to school near me, but he said he wanted to "make his own way" whatever that means, but he said that we could still date and see each other like once a month or something. I wanted us to be together in school because I was worried about him being with other chicks, so I listened to one of my friends and told him that I was still on the pill (even though I wasn't) and I got pregnant by him.

Now, I have changed my mind. I don't really want to be with him anymore and school is about to start but I am two and a half months pregnant. I told Wenton that I was pregnant and his mother has told him that he is going to have to either go to school AND find a job to care for our baby, or he is going to have to quit school, but she is not going to allow him to be an absentee father.

Wenton is mad because he says that he isn't ready for a child, but now that I realize that I could actually be free to do what I want to for a change, neither am I. Should I get an abortion?

Twyla
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Dear Twyla,

See, that's what your dumb ass gets! You're going to listen to your lonely assed friend tell you some dumb shit like "get pregnant on purpose" when your silly ass doesn't even have an education, let alone, a job??

What you've done is possibly change the course of THREE lives - yours, Wenton's and this baby's if you choose to keep it. Wenton seems like a sensible guy in that he decided to continue on with his dreams of attending college where he initially planned (unlike your silly ass), but for the life of me, I can't understand why he thought that you being on the pill was all the protection he needed. What you could have gotten is a lot worse than a life sentence with a baby - you could have gotten a death sentence, Sweetheart!

Do you feel as silly as you should now that you're pregnant and your life may change drastically while you're "friend" is free to come and go as she pleases - enjoying her life like a teenager should? I ought to punch you in your damn liver! Now, you feel even worse because you trapped this boy into becoming a parent (although he played a large part in this his damned self) and now you don't even want him nor the baby!!

Where is your mother, because from what I'm getting from your letter, Wenton's mother ain't the abortion type, so you need to sit down with Wenton, explain the situation, get his take on it, then sit down with BOTH your parents and let them know what decisions you and Wenton have made together.

Either way, I'm not in this shit because as I've said before - I don't give abortion advice. It just ain't in me, so I'm not helping anyone make the decision to either have to live with the fact that they've aborted a child, or keep a baby and live with the fact that they've KEPT a child that they didn't want.

You're on your own kid -

Nieces, nephews... help her out!

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com