Dear Miss Pearl,
My brother dated a girl named Asha for eight years and
they have two children. A boy and a girl. They broke up two years ago and me and
Asha started messing around on the low, but nobody knew it. She got back with my
brother and we started messing around again soon afterwards.
up again last year and I decided to tell the family that I wanted to be with
Asha. We got together and she and the kids moved in with me. My mother and
brother and sisters have "disowned" me and asked Asha not to come to their homes
unless it's to drop the kids off.
Asha wants to get married, and I want
to marry her, but my family won't have any part of it. I know that my brother
was cheating on Asha, so he didn't care about her anyway, so why is he so upset
that I have stepped up?
I think they should get over it. I don't expect
my brother to be at the wedding because I don't understand why my mom and
sisters won't have anything to do with me.
What can I do to make my
family accept that Asha and I are going to be
really expect your family to welcome back into the family, the woman
who has not only been a part of the family for eight years as your
brothers girlfriend, but also has children with
What's wrong with you that, with all of the women in the
world, the one you've decided that you want to marry is the one who has children
with your brother? Have either of you selfish, ignorant toads stopped to think
what your "love" is doing to anyone other than yourselves? Does it even dawn on
you that what you're doing is probably the equivalent of a stab in the heart to
Do you realize that accepting your "relationship" is just
as hard on your mother and your sisters because to accept this is to "condone"
your relationship and "take your side" even if they don't want to be in the
middle? What about the children? Has anyone thought about how confused they must
be now that mommy is living as man and wife with their
What happens when you and Asha have children? Are the
children 1st cousins and brothers and sisters? People say that you
can't help who you fall in love with, but I say that's a damn lie!
You're wrong, and you need your ass whooped, so don't use the fact that your
brother cheated on his girlfriend as a justification to get with her - if his
relationship ain't right, let him fix it, not you!
problem is that you're there now and I don't think that you're going to wake up
tomorrow and suddenly have some morals. So, all you can do is deal with the
repercussions of your actions and not expect your family to accept them, because
they probably won't.
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