Dear Miss Pearl,
I am 18 years old and I'm leaving for the air force
soon. The problem is my boyfriend Seth. He is 27 and he slipped up and told me
that he has been trying to get me pregnant for the past 2 months. Miss Pearl I
am pissed because I am not ready for children yet. I'm just 18!!!
I have
told Seth that I will not be having unprotected sex with him anymore because I
do not want a child until I am either married, or I have experienced enough to
be ready to settle down and take care of one. Now he wants to break up with me
because he thinks that I am trying to leave and be with other men and that's why
I don't want a baby.
Miss P, I don't even know where I am going to be
stationed, and I'll be in the army. Who is going to take care of this child
while I'm living in another state?
Should I leave consider having a baby
with this man, or do you think that I am right to want to wait until I am more
settled?
Tabitha
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Dear Tabitha,
Tell
Seth to sit his ass down somewhere. He's trying to control you - point blank!
He's worried about what you will be doing while you're away in the Air Force,
and to get you pregnant is a way to ensure that you'll be stuck in the house
babysitting and not somewhere enjoying what are actually your TEENAGE
years!!
There is nothing wrong with having a baby at 18, but why
would you with no husband? You're not even old enough to drink yet.
Enjoy your youth, drop Seth and party on, girl! He's 27, he shouldn't be trying
to tie you down any damned way.
So, the answer to your question is not
"no", but "hell no!"... you're too young, and like you said, whose going to
babysit while you're 18 year old ass is living in another state alone
with a baby?
If Seth was truly concerned about you, then he
would ask you to marry him first, and then let the baby come. (If he
asked, say no). Enjoy your youth, have a baby after you're established enough
(both emotionally AND financially) to take care of one.
What happens when
Seth is back at home doing his thing while you're stuck in the
house with a baby every night? What if you get called to Iraq? Whose going to
take care of your baby? Damn Seth!
PS: Don't you have another unsafe sex
session period unless it's with your husband!
If you want advice
from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com
He's 27 and your 18?
ReplyDeleteRUN
Run girl RUUUUNNNNN!!! He's trying to lock you down and it has NOTHING to do with love. You need to focus on your goals and your goals alone. You're going to have enough of a hard time keeping them Army guys (and girls) away from you. Be smart and don't fall for the okey doke...that's whether you're a civilian or in the service!!!! DON'T TAKE ANY WOODEN NICKELS!!
ReplyDeleteSeth is trying to control you and your future. Don't have a baby until u are finished doin u. Enjoy your life and work hard to meet your goals. U will be proud of yourself for meeting your goals. Oh, and by the way "Run like Hell ! Get the Hell away from Seth. He is trying to trap u.
ReplyDeleteWhy aren't you on the pill? It your body, why does he have control over your protection?
ReplyDeleteMina
Bitch, are you going to the Air Force or the Army???
ReplyDeleteIt takes a BITCH to know a bitch.
DeleteShe is a young lady who is going into the service.
Now bitch U go somewhere & sit on the porch.
You have a bright future ahead of you, like Miss P said your young go enjoy your life. This may be a sign that he isn't the man for you.
ReplyDeleteRIGHT!!!!!!! Miss Pearl...she already confused about where she is going in the Air Force or the Army...she is most definitely NOT READY!
ReplyDeleteTabitha;
ReplyDeleteThere are other reasons other than having a baby that should cause U to use protection.
Dont let Seth dictate your life. It would be great for the both of U if he breaks up w/ U. He is very selfish & doesnt have your BEST interest in mind.
At this time dont consider having a baby w/ him.
Dump his selfish ass now and go enjoy the next phase of your life.
ReplyDeletePlease stop having sex with this man. I was an honor roll student and met an older guy. He said he loved me and la-di-da, etc. I was ABSOLUTELY college bound, and he started doing stuff like lying before intercourse and saying he had a condom on. After, I would ask him why he didn't take it off. He would laugh and say he didn't have one on. Against better judgement, and common damn sense. I talked to him and he said he would stop, but he didn't. And I was impregnated before the end of the month. He thought it was cute. I was devastated.
ReplyDeleteAs soon as I got pregnant. He BEGGED me to go down to 'The Welfare' so we could get Food Stamps and Section 8. But I knew that my best position was to stay with my family. He was SOOOO pissed, he started fighting me. Stalking me, and being abusive. He said I didn't love him. He said I knew he wanted to move out of his Grandmothers house. I could help HIM and am choosing not to. The breaking point was when he asked me to get on Welfare for HIM, since I didn't want it. WHAAAT??? It was so HARD for me to look at this (curse word) the same. All of a sudden. I knew. He only wanted to have a baby so that he could get on Welfare! Yes, boo. There are guys that want babies so they can move outta Mamas! I told him if he wanted to try living with each other. He can get a job and I would get a part time job and that could hold us. But he WASN'T HEARING THAT. We didn't make it to our daughters 1st birthday. And the killer part is, our daughter came out with brain damage.
I hope that my story can prevent another life being ruined, NO. Heavily altered by a no good guy with ill conceived motives.
The age thing in my opinion is irrelevant. Younger white women marry gentlemen that are older for financial security. The real issue here is the fact that he seems to indeed be trying to hem you up. You should continue to persue a career, enjoy your youth, and set your goals and standards high. My ex started pressuring me about a baby with only 6 months under our belt. At first I tried explaining that we were not financially ready for kids. He continued that for months and even went as far as to cry and say that I didn't love him because I wouldn't have his child. Although I said no I took no precautions to prevent pregnancy. He loved my dirty draws while I was pregnant but the very minute our son was born...his very first child that he practically harrassed me for..he progressed in his cheating. I had no idea who he really was and who or how many women he was dealing with. I dumped him and needless to say he had another baby on the way before our child reached 1. Don't do it love...enjoy your life...soar for the stars and wait for your ring.
ReplyDeleteAll yall giving these sob stories about some man getting you pregnant are dumb as hell. How about you ask him why he is not asking you to marry him instead asking you to have his baby?? You are the only one who has control over your body, use birth control!! You're lucky all you got was a baby and not a disease!
ReplyDeleteTabitha, kick this fool to the curb. This man is trying to tie you down and has no intentions of a future with you, He wants you to commit to him without commiting to you. He realizes that if you leave him for a while, you may experience the world and outgrow him. At 27 he should be with someone his own age. Live your life and don't let this man stand in the way of what you are trying to accomplish.
ReplyDelete@ Anonymous 6:59....BITCH GO SUCK A DISEASED DICK...HOE ARE YOU MARRIED...IF SO BITCH GET OFF THE COMPUTER PLUCKING WITH YOUR FAKE AS ACRYLIC NAILS AND COOK THE MAN A DAMN MEAL...JEALOUS BITCH...YOU CAN TELL BY YOUR COMMENT YOUR ASS BEEN PLAYED AND PROBABLY HAVEN'T HAD A MAN AFTER YOUR ASS...FUCK YOU! WHO THIS BITCH THINK SHE IS AUNTEE PEARL...SIT YOUR ASS DOWN! NOW SOB STORY THAT BIATCH!!!
ReplyDeleteAnon 8/10/12 8:18 PM
DeleteWhat kind of damn juice have U been drinking. The comments made by Anon 6:59 were very accurate.
U missed the boat w/ your nasty comments. Now get your s^it 2gather or stay off Ayntee's porch.