Dear Miss Pearl,
I am 18 years old and I'm leaving for the air force
soon. The problem is my boyfriend Seth. He is 27 and he slipped up and told me
that he has been trying to get me pregnant for the past 2 months. Miss Pearl I
am pissed because I am not ready for children yet. I'm just 18!!!
told Seth that I will not be having unprotected sex with him anymore because I
do not want a child until I am either married, or I have experienced enough to
be ready to settle down and take care of one. Now he wants to break up with me
because he thinks that I am trying to leave and be with other men and that's why
I don't want a baby.
Miss P, I don't even know where I am going to be
stationed, and I'll be in the army. Who is going to take care of this child
while I'm living in another state?
Should I leave consider having a baby
with this man, or do you think that I am right to want to wait until I am more
Seth to sit his ass down somewhere. He's trying to control you - point blank!
He's worried about what you will be doing while you're away in the Air Force,
and to get you pregnant is a way to ensure that you'll be stuck in the house
babysitting and not somewhere enjoying what are actually your TEENAGE
There is nothing wrong with having a baby at 18, but why
would you with no husband? You're not even old enough to drink yet.
Enjoy your youth, drop Seth and party on, girl! He's 27, he shouldn't be trying
to tie you down any damned way.
So, the answer to your question is not
"no", but "hell no!"... you're too young, and like you said, whose going to
babysit while you're 18 year old ass is living in another state alone
with a baby?
If Seth was truly concerned about you, then he
would ask you to marry him first, and then let the baby come. (If he
asked, say no). Enjoy your youth, have a baby after you're established enough
(both emotionally AND financially) to take care of one.
What happens when
Seth is back at home doing his thing while you're stuck in the
house with a baby every night? What if you get called to Iraq? Whose going to
take care of your baby? Damn Seth!
PS: Don't you have another unsafe sex
session period unless it's with your husband!
If you want advice
from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org