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Monday, September 10
Texas Man Kills Girlfriend After She Tells Him She's HIV Positive!
“She killed me, so I killed her.”
That was the chilling confession a Texas man gave to cops last week after allegedly stabbing his girlfriend for telling him she was HIV-positive.
Larry Dunn, Jr., 36, told cops he snapped during a visit to the Dallas apartment of his new girlfriend, 28-year-old Cicely Bolden, on Thursday afternoon, WFAA-TV reported.
After the couple had sex, Dunn says Bolden revealed her HIV status.
Furious, he went to the kitchen, grabbed a knife, and stabbed her to death.
Neighbor Latoya Arnett said Bolden’s son and daughter, ages 7 and 8, came home from school around 3:30 p.m. and found their mother’s body.
“They came out crying," she told the TV station. "I ran out to see what was wrong with them. They were saying, 'Something's wrong with mama!'"
Dunn told detectives he burned his clothes and the knife and tossed them in a dumpster at a Waffle House restaurant.
Cops later retrieved the charred murder weapon.
Bolden’s two children are in the custody of the boy’s father, Jeff Busby, who said Bolden contracted HIV within the past two years.
The kids are "doing okay, but asking a lot of questions," Busby told WFAA.
Dunn is being held on $500,000 bond on a murder charge.
Getting tested doesn't resolve the issue, how about getting to know the person you are dating. Most Importantly love yourself and dont take everything someone says to face value,do your research you owe that to yourself. Find out about the person's background, get to know their families and the people they hang around with, this will help to give you some insight of the type of person you are about to entrust your life with. TAKE YOUR TIME!!!!! there is no rush. Be faithful and loyal in your relationship. It only takes one time, your life can change or end within a twinkling of an eye...so BE SAFE and RESPONSIBLE.......
Great advice for a single person but for a person who is taking on a sidekick it's not likely that thy would do so since thy are creeping around on thy person at home.
Sad... reality for a partner to come to grips with, finding out that you may have contracted a virus from the one you loved, trusted your life with, and been faithful to. It is just so unfair and selfish. When you think you know your partner and to find out that you don't. It really doesn't matter how long you have been with that person, because you truly never know. You trust that they will stand true on the committment that they made to be faithful in the relationship. The human race just is never satisfied, no matter how good they have it, they will always find some way to mess it up and destroy it. Is say this to say, that is why it is very important to love yourself and pay attention to your gut feelings, listen to your mind and thoughts because when you start thinking about certain things about that partner, which is your intuition, then doubt creeps in which is denial, and tell you that you are overreacting, but your intuition never lies, Just like the saying when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them... THE FIRST TIME, well I take that to heart. When you have that gut feeling and your mind tells you that something isn't right believe it the first time and do something about it, because it is your life they are messing with and if they loved you, they wouldn't be trying to put your life in jeopardy with their selfish lustful desires. If I'm not enough hey... BYE I will be okay....But selfish people can't be satisfied without ruining other people's lives,they got to have it all until they cause HAVOC and do the damage and then they are satisfied. So it is up to you to take care of yourself and TRUST the higher power to help you get through is disfunctional world.......
She should have seen that coming.....You don't just casually tell somebody that BS, especially after he "just" slept with you!!! That's when you get outta dodge and send him a letter in the mail....or better yet just keep ya legs clothes! #NastyAsses SMDH
Toya he wasn't dying. Just because you sleep with an HIV infected person doesn't mean you will or have contracted the disease from that person.
That brother could have dodged that bullet by A-asking more questions of her sexual status. B- wearing a condom. What he did is bullshit and he deserve life in prison for murder.
Men and women just have to make beter choices and make better life decisions.
I agree with 100% Anonymous. This is the biggest problem in the African American Community Ignorance people go get educated HIV is not a death sentence. This is why so many people live in silence due to the Stigma that we put on it only our people think and talk ignorant, Becareful people some of your closets relatives and family members may be positive and are suffering on silence. But to also inform you there are alot of positive and negative relationships today. Even with Magic Johnson being a open living testimony it's not his money that he is a survior it is due to him seeking medical attention and taking care of himself.
He will still die before the time he would have died if he didnt catch it. His body is strong as well as medication. All persons are different. Stop saying the black communtiy, its all communities. Its not all ignorance either, he might have not been dying but it makes your life change in a way you can never get back, that was his point, might as well be dead
What she did, does not make it right, and what he did isn't right either. Both of them were wrong. Making excuses for her is not gonna clear up the epidemic that is affecting the African-American communities all across America. A family is destroyed, children motherless and fatherless, that will grow up in a broken home as a result of this tragic situation. This is a similar situation that is happening all across America. He had a wife, which most likely she could have contracted it, I think he had kids as well, which he will never get to raise and be an example for, because of the crime that he has committed. He will be in prison,if convicted. Let's not forget that she had two children that will grow up without a mom and be traumatized for the rest of their lives of what they saw and experienced. We need to wake up and tell it like it is. Ignorance,Irresponsibility, and Selfishness is the problem with people these days. People need to take responsibility for their actions. Being HIV positive, and not having full blown AIDS does not make it any better or worst, but it is not a license to go around contracting others with the virus, People let's think about it, if we were back to a place when treatment was at the early stages and medicenes were not as effective as it is today, what would be the result....... so I say this to say, that people should look at HIV as a sentence...hypothetically speaking. Yes there's medication, but it is not a license to go around behaving irresponsibly, if you are going to have sex, practice safe sex using all percautions necessary to protect yourself as well as the other person. C'mon, think people, think. look at the times we are living in. Educate yourselves, your communities, and most of all the next generation, they are our future.
I thought I would be the only one who could see things from his point of view. What she did was murder him, in a sense, so I just don't feel that badly for her. You don't KNOWINGLY have something like AIDS/HIV and sleep with someone without telling him/her BEFORE the act. Yes, he should have had protected sex. Yes, maybe he should have inquired about her health issues. Yes, he should have suggested they both get tested before they had sex, but even if he didn't, SHE had a responsibility to make her condition known. Yes, I feel badly for the kids, but I don't know if I could sit on that jury and not let my heart decide hsis fate.
dont agree with either one of their action, but he deserves life without parole, not GOD you cant just kill people cause youre pissed wrap it up hell....
I agree anonymous be angry but we all have responsibilites and choices that we need to take serious when it comes to sex. How many other people has he slept with that is positive and he didn't know. My african sisters and brothers please go get educated cause some of the comments I hear from my people makes me shake my head, cause everybody commenting is not getting tested, having unprotected sex and don't know if your partner is positive or negative. With meds people are now undetecable so don't be fooled by a negative test result just use protection and get educated. What if the shoe was on the other foot, would you want people to say harsh things around you and not know that you are HIV positive, how would you deal with it. HIV has no face!
SHARING ONE'S STATUS IS A CHOICE.....ASKING ONE'S STATUS BEFORE YOU BECOME INTIMATE IS YOUR RIGHT! EXERCISE YOUR RIGHT...CHECK OUT THE CHE-MATE APP! checmateappdotcom
Wow!!! A life was taken due to the ignorance of sexual feelings.. Think it not strange what is taken place.The Rath has come. People are doing things without a care in the world. People Of God, we must be careful of wrong doing. The choices we make at the age where we are held accountable, we will PAY!! we must protects ourselves from all...MEN & WOMEN ...STRAP UP FOR GOD SAKE!! IT'S DANGEROUS AND SOME DON'T CARE WHO THEY GIVE IT TO. WATCH OUT FOR HEALTH AND OTHERS!!! 504 FO SHO..BE BLESSED
SAD TO HEAR....I PRAY STRENGTH FOR THE FAMILY AND CHILDREN,BUT GOD'S MERCY ON MY NOLA FAMILY MEMBER DUE THE FACT THAT HIS REACTION TOOK OVER HIM BEFORE HE GOT THE END RESULT...OF COURSE, IF A PERSON TELL YOU NEWS LIKE, AFTER, IT WILL CAUSE A REACTION IMMEDIATELY..BUT KNOWINGLY SLEEPING WITH ANYONE AND YOU KNOW YOU NOT DOING WELL.. I HAVE NO RESPECT OF A PERSON..THAT FOOLISH... WHO DOES THAT!!! SOME FOLKS JUST NEED TO LET THEIR SICK FLESH DIE!!!! 13TH WARD..BE EASY BAE
I really feel sorry for the kids and both families involved! Come to find out that he was married with two kids of his own. Its a sad tradegy! Now, he will have to sit behind bars for how many ever years thinking about what he done! He should have just obeyed and followed the commandments. I hate to see her kids suffer without a mother, but she knew better as well. I'm praying for both families!!
When someone is murdered, you don't believe the survivors/murderer/ (wanna be) vuctims story right away because the other person is DEAD!! Everyone in her family, friends, exe's AND Dunn as well KNEW she was infected! And because she wanted to end things, he killed her!
When someone is murdered, you don't believe the survivors/murderer/ (wanna be) vuctims story right away because the other person is DEAD!! Everyone in her family, friends, exe's AND Dunn as well KNEW she was infected! And because she wanted to end things, he killed her!
I don't blame him one bit. I feel sorry for the kids but apparently the mother didn't have much respect for her self or her kids to do that to their dad. It takes a low down woman to do what she did . Did she think he would thank her... Of course he would snap after being done like that. Shame on her.
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Crazy. Get tested together before jumping in bed with someone.
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DeleteGetting tested doesn't resolve the issue, how about getting to know the person you are dating. Most Importantly love yourself and dont take everything someone says to face value,do your research you owe that to yourself. Find out about the person's background, get to know their families and the people they hang around with, this will help to give you some insight of the type of person you are about to entrust your life with. TAKE YOUR TIME!!!!! there is no rush. Be faithful and loyal in your relationship. It only takes one time, your life can change or end within a twinkling of an eye...so BE SAFE and RESPONSIBLE.......
DeleteAnon 12:23PM 9-15-12
DeleteGreat advice for a single person but for a person who is taking on a sidekick it's not likely that thy would do so since thy are creeping around on thy person at home.
Sad... reality for a partner to come to grips with, finding out that you may have contracted a virus from the one you loved, trusted your life with, and been faithful to. It is just so unfair and selfish. When you think you know your partner and to find out that you don't. It really doesn't matter how long you have been with that person, because you truly never know. You trust that they will stand true on the committment that they made to be faithful in the relationship. The human race just is never satisfied, no matter how good they have it, they will always find some way to mess it up and destroy it. Is say this to say, that is why it is very important to love yourself and pay attention to your gut feelings, listen to your mind and thoughts because when you start thinking about certain things about that partner, which is your intuition, then doubt creeps in which is denial, and tell you that you are overreacting, but your intuition never lies, Just like the saying when someone shows you who they are the first time, believe them... THE FIRST TIME, well I take that to heart. When you have that gut feeling and your mind tells you that something isn't right believe it the first time and do something about it, because it is your life they are messing with and if they loved you, they wouldn't be trying to put your life in jeopardy with their selfish lustful desires. If I'm not enough hey... BYE I will be okay....But selfish people can't be satisfied without ruining other people's lives,they got to have it all until they cause HAVOC and do the damage and then they are satisfied. So it is up to you to take care of yourself and TRUST the higher power to help you get through is disfunctional world.......
DeleteHmmm this is a hard one, if he hadn't killed her would she have been criminally charged with murder herself?
ReplyDeleteShe should have seen that coming.....You don't just casually tell somebody that BS, especially after he "just" slept with you!!! That's when you get outta dodge and send him a letter in the mail....or better yet just keep ya legs clothes! #NastyAsses SMDH
ReplyDeleteWrap it up & ask before putting it in every hole.
ReplyDeleteYEA BUT THAT WAS TRIFLIN, TO TELL HIM AFTER THEY SLEPT TOGETHER BUT I CANT SAY I BLAME OLE BOY, LIKE HE SAID HE DYING ANYWAY.
ReplyDeleteToya he wasn't dying. Just because you sleep with an HIV infected person doesn't mean you will or have contracted the disease from that person.
ReplyDeleteThat brother could have dodged that bullet by A-asking more questions of her sexual status. B- wearing a condom. What he did is bullshit and he deserve life in prison for murder.
Men and women just have to make beter choices and make better life decisions.
I agree with 100% Anonymous. This is the biggest problem in the African American Community Ignorance people go get educated HIV is not a death sentence. This is why so many people live in silence due to the Stigma that we put on it only our people think and talk ignorant, Becareful people some of your closets relatives and family members may be positive and are suffering on silence. But to also inform you there are alot of positive and negative relationships today. Even with Magic Johnson being a open living testimony it's not his money that he is a survior it is due to him seeking medical attention and taking care of himself.
DeleteHe will still die before the time he would have died if he didnt catch it. His body is strong as well as medication. All persons are different. Stop saying the black communtiy, its all communities. Its not all ignorance either, he might have not been dying but it makes your life change in a way you can never get back, that was his point, might as well be dead
Deletesorry for the typos.
ReplyDeleteWhat she did, does not make it right, and what he did isn't right either. Both of them were wrong. Making excuses for her is not gonna clear up the epidemic that is affecting the African-American communities all across America. A family is destroyed, children motherless and fatherless, that will grow up in a broken home as a result of this tragic situation. This is a similar situation that is happening all across America. He had a wife, which most likely she could have contracted it, I think he had kids as well, which he will never get to raise and be an example for, because of the crime that he has committed. He will be in prison,if convicted. Let's not forget that she had two children that will grow up without a mom and be traumatized for the rest of their lives of what they saw and experienced. We need to wake up and tell it like it is. Ignorance,Irresponsibility, and Selfishness is the problem with people these days. People need to take responsibility for their actions. Being HIV positive, and not having full blown AIDS does not make it any better or worst, but it is not a license to go around contracting others with the virus, People let's think about it, if we were back to a place when treatment was at the early stages and medicenes were not as effective as it is today, what would be the result....... so I say this to say, that people should look at HIV as a sentence...hypothetically speaking. Yes there's medication, but it is not a license to go around behaving irresponsibly, if you are going to have sex, practice safe sex using all percautions necessary to protect yourself as well as the other person. C'mon, think people, think. look at the times we are living in. Educate yourselves, your communities, and most of all the next generation, they are our future.
DeleteI thought I would be the only one who could see things from his point of view. What she did was murder him, in a sense, so I just don't feel that badly for her. You don't KNOWINGLY have something like AIDS/HIV and sleep with someone without telling him/her BEFORE the act. Yes, he should have had protected sex. Yes, maybe he should have inquired about her health issues. Yes, he should have suggested they both get tested before they had sex, but even if he didn't, SHE had a responsibility to make her condition known. Yes, I feel badly for the kids, but I don't know if I could sit on that jury and not let my heart decide hsis fate.
ReplyDeleteHe's my hometown bro...he from NOLA....cool dude...im just so outdone by this
ReplyDeletedont agree with either one of their action, but he deserves life without parole, not GOD you cant just kill people cause youre pissed wrap it up hell....
ReplyDeleteI agree anonymous be angry but we all have responsibilites and choices that we need to take serious when it comes to sex. How many other people has he slept with that is positive and he didn't know. My african sisters and brothers please go get educated cause some of the comments I hear from my people makes me shake my head, cause everybody commenting is not getting tested, having unprotected sex and don't know if your partner is positive or negative. With meds people are now undetecable so don't be fooled by a negative test result just use protection and get educated. What if the shoe was on the other foot, would you want people to say harsh things around you and not know that you are HIV positive, how would you deal with it. HIV has no face!
DeleteSHARING ONE'S STATUS IS A CHOICE.....ASKING ONE'S STATUS BEFORE YOU BECOME INTIMATE IS YOUR RIGHT! EXERCISE YOUR RIGHT...CHECK OUT THE CHE-MATE APP! checmateappdotcom
ReplyDeleteWow!!! A life was taken due to the ignorance of sexual feelings.. Think it not strange what is taken place.The Rath has come. People are doing things without a care in the world. People Of God, we must be careful of wrong doing. The choices we make at the age where we are held accountable, we will PAY!! we must protects ourselves from all...MEN & WOMEN ...STRAP UP FOR GOD SAKE!! IT'S DANGEROUS AND SOME DON'T CARE WHO THEY GIVE IT TO. WATCH OUT FOR HEALTH AND OTHERS!!! 504 FO SHO..BE BLESSED
Deletesharing isnt a choice, its the law
Deletesharing isnt a choice its the law
DeleteSAD TO HEAR....I PRAY STRENGTH FOR THE FAMILY AND CHILDREN,BUT GOD'S MERCY ON MY NOLA FAMILY MEMBER DUE THE FACT THAT HIS REACTION TOOK OVER HIM BEFORE HE GOT THE END RESULT...OF COURSE, IF A PERSON TELL YOU NEWS LIKE, AFTER, IT WILL CAUSE A REACTION IMMEDIATELY..BUT KNOWINGLY SLEEPING WITH ANYONE AND YOU KNOW YOU NOT DOING WELL.. I HAVE NO RESPECT OF A PERSON..THAT FOOLISH... WHO DOES THAT!!! SOME FOLKS JUST NEED TO LET THEIR SICK FLESH DIE!!!! 13TH WARD..BE EASY BAE
ReplyDeleteI really feel sorry for the kids and both families involved! Come to find out that he was married with two kids of his own. Its a sad tradegy! Now, he will have to sit behind bars for how many ever years thinking about what he done! He should have just obeyed and followed the commandments. I hate to see her kids suffer without a mother, but she knew better as well. I'm praying for both families!!
ReplyDeleteWhen someone is murdered, you don't believe the survivors/murderer/ (wanna be) vuctims story right away because the other person is DEAD!! Everyone in her family, friends, exe's AND Dunn as well KNEW she was infected! And because she wanted to end things, he killed her!
ReplyDeleteWhen someone is murdered, you don't believe the survivors/murderer/ (wanna be) vuctims story right away because the other person is DEAD!! Everyone in her family, friends, exe's AND Dunn as well KNEW she was infected! And because she wanted to end things, he killed her!
ReplyDeleteI don't blame him one bit. I feel sorry for the kids but apparently the mother didn't have much respect for her self or her kids to do that to their dad. It takes a low down woman to do what she did . Did she think he would thank her... Of course he would snap after being done like that. Shame on her.
ReplyDeleteDude is married! That's what he gets for creepin'!!!!!
ReplyDeleteIm so surprised people are taking up for this lady!! He didnt have a choice. She never gave him a choice. Her silence was an admission that she was unaware of her HIV status when in fact she KNEW she was HIV +!!! It would be diff if she was not aware of her status but she DID know. I feel sooo sorry those kids veré born to a heartless, selfish; individual but they are better off without her!!!
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