Dear Miss Pearl,
My husband and I have been married for 16 years and we
have 2 kids ages 16 and 7. We both make nice salaries and we drive nice cars and
we own our home. He has never been a homebody and that was fine as long as he
took care of home first.
Well over the past couple of years things have
slowly started going down the tubes. He used to at least take care of the yard
and try to do little repairs around the house like take care of the cars and
things like that. Now I cant get his lazy ass to do shit.
I do EVERYTHING
around here and I ask, beg and plead him to help me. He is always gone and only
comes home when its time to go to sleep. He pays half of the bills but does not
give me any extra money for the kids clothes, food, entertainment, so on and so
forth. I asked him to move out because I shouldn't have to try to move with the
kids because he has made it clear that he cant give them the time and attention
that they need. He will not leave and I am about to go crazy because every time
he comes home he just irks the hell out of me.
I am a very attractive
woman and I always have men trying to give me their numbers and stuff but I am
trying to get rid of this jackass first because I am a firm believer in doing
things the right way. Do you have any advice on how to get this man out of this
house or do you think I should just pack up as much as I can and take the kids
A sure fire way to get rid of a husband that you don't want (and
one who apparently doesn't want you) is to file for divorce!! I suspect that
your husband is too tired to do some shit around your house because
he's putting in work at another address. Don't be selfish, free up his
time and give his sorry ass the freedom to devote all of his time to
that household. My mama always told me that a man should sleep where he keeps
his screw driver, and what that means is that if he's doing work at somebody
elses house, that's where he should sleep and eat!
If the two of you
can't stand the sight of each other anyway, it won't be that much of a strain on
you to file your papers and live in the same house - the only difference is that
there is no obligation for him to come home at all - and you don't have to feel
bad about taking anyone's number!
When you go to court, the judge will
decide whether you'll get the house, he'll get it, or you'll have to sell it and
split the difference.
You should only take this suggestion if you truly
feel that your marriage is over, because if you think counseling will help, go
for it! But on another note, you have a 16 year old, why isn't that child
helping you around the house when dad isn't? It looks like you're about to
become a single parent, so I suggest that you put those children to work because
it doesn't get easier when your husband is gone - once you put his
worthless ass out, all of the work is on you, not just 85% of
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org