Dear Miss Pearl,
My wife was once married to
a man I'll call Clarence. They went to school together and remained really good
friends after the divorce because their families have always really tight. (his
mother and father still hang out with her parents).
I never really had a
problem with Clarence because he was before me, so when I would go around my
in-laws and he was there, it was uncomfortable for me at first, but eventually,
Clarence and I had so much in common that we became sort of like friends (but
just when we were around each other, not like we call each other or hang out,
it's just when we are around the in-laws, or my wife's family and he happens to
Well, my wife and I moved to another city and we've been here
for about 2 years. All of a sudden, my wife came to me and said that her mother
told her that Clarence got a job offer in this city too, and he wants to know if
he can come and stay with us for about a month just long enough to get on his
My wife doesn't understand why I appreciate the fact that she and
her husband are still cordial and have remained friends, but I don't want to
live with him. She says I'm being selfish but I think I'm being
What in hell is your wife thinking? It's one thing to have a husband
who is secure enough in his marriage and his manhood to not have an issue with
his wife continuing to be good friends with her ex-husband, but it takes a whole
different type of man to become friends with the ex as well.
should count her blessings in that she has a man who loves her enough to welcome
the man she was once married to into their lives solely based upon the fact that
he knows that the man is important to his wife's family! What the hell makes
this dizzy broad think that any man would allow his wife's ex husband
to move into the same house with him unless there is some sneaky freaky going
Would she be OK if you brought home some woman and said,
"this is my ex", she's coming to live with us for a minute? Hell no,
she wouldn't. I'd be very careful with this chick because something just ain't
sittin' well with me here, I can feel it in my spirit.
Your wife has a
lot of nerve - a lot of nerve, and I wouldn't be surprised if she is so
upset because she's still messing with this dude. You've accepted the man into
your lives because you love her, and for the most part, you have to share your
in-laws with her ex by default, but you don't have to welcome his ass into
your house. If your wife's family is so concerned, let their
asses put up the money so that he can get an apartment on his own.
don't owe none of these freaks shit!
If you want advice from Miss Pearl,
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