I moved away from home to go to college 9 years ago and I
only go back to visit. I love my family with all of my heart, but my mother is
prejudiced and I don't really come home because she has told me several times
not to bring a white woman to her house and since I'm dating a white woman, I'm
sure you can see my problem.
At first, I thought she was just talking,
even though I knew that she hated white people, but once, I brought my white
college roommate home as we passed through my town on our way to his family home
for the holidays and my mother embarrassed me by saying that she never had a
white man in her house eating off of her forks and she didn't plan on
My friend turned red and was really hurt and my mother made it
worse by saying that she didn't want him in her house because she deals with
enough "hon keys" at work.
I left and went to my friends house and his
family went out of their way to treat me like I was a part of the family. I even
went into the garage with my roommate and talked about always wanting a scooter
like the one he had in there and his father MADE him give it to me because he
said that he never rode it anyway. I thought that he was kidding, but he put it
on the truck for me to use to get around when I got back to campus. My friend
didn't even want to give it away, but he did it because his parents were just
That made me feel worse about the way my mom had treated
him. Now, I'm in a relationship with a white girl and she has asked me what I
want out of our relationship. I know what that means, but I don't know what to
say because I don't know how to tell my mom that I'm in love with a white
What do I do in this situation, break it off with my girlfriend to
keep my mother from hurting her, or just tell my mother that I'm in love with
her and let her deal with it?
I love my mom, I just hate her
Dear Desmond, if you love
this girl and you really want to marry her, damn what your mama is talking
about, either she'll accept it, or she won't, but you have to tell your
girlfriend exactly what she's getting herself into if you decide to pursue a
relationship that goes beyond boyfriend/girlfriend with her.
has made her choices, as ignorant as they may be, but you can't allow those
stupid a$$ed choices to continue to affect the ones you make in your own life.
I'm sure telling your mom that you are with a white woman will piss her off, but
either she'll piss or get off the pot.
Your relationship is about nobody
other than you and the person in the relationship, anybody else is secondary
after you take a spouse. Don't let your mother's ignorance choose who you decide
to love. Tell her country a$$ to eat a ham hock and do you.
If you want
advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: email@example.com