Dear Miss Pearl,
I am 13 year old and started having sex with a boy who
live upstairs from us in January. He is 15 years old and did not rape me or
nothing I did it because I wanted to do it. His mother works at night and I
usually go up there at night when my mother and sister go to sleep.
scared now because I am pregnant and I want to tell our mother's but he is
scared and told me that if I tell he is going to break up with me. His brother
is grown and told him that he will try to get the money for me to have a
abortion and have his girlfriend mother take me to have it done, but I think I
should tell my mother.
My mom doesn't make lot of money and I know she
will be mad and might even put me out for getting pregnant because she has
talked to us about having s ex so I don't know what to do. I am supposed to ask
my mother if I can spend the weekend with my friend family during Thanksgiving
break and that's when they supposed to take me to get the
Should I do it and hope that my mama won't find out or tell
her? I am really scared of my mom and what she will do
Dear Pregnant at 13,
Wow! Girl, what a
mess you have going on here. I don't feel comfortable giving you any advice
about this, but I don't fell like I have a choice because my spirit is telling
me that you desperately need help.
Do NOT have that abortion without
talking to your mother!. Number one, what all of these ADULTS are plotting to do
behind your mother's back is against the law. You're a
minor and no strange woman should be taking you to get ANY type of medical
procedure without your mother's consent!
I'm not telling you whether you
should ultimately have the procedure or not, but what I AM telling you is that,
under NO circumstances are you to do this without talking to your mother first!
Yes, she is going to be mad, YES she is going to yell... and yes, she will get
over it. All mother's do eventually.
Do you know how your mother would
feel if you went out and had this type of procedure and something happened to
you? (not to mention the fact that the person who took you to get it done would
go to JAIL!)
The sooner you tell your mother, the better - don't wait. I
don't trust your boyfriend, or his family, so I think your mother needs to find
out TODAY. Sit down with her, cry, yell, scream, faint, do whatever you need to
do, but you'd better tell your mama!!!
If you want advice from Miss
Pearl, send me an email to: email@example.com