Dear Miss Pearl,
I'm 29 years old and I'm engaged to Valerie, who is 26
years old. I asked Valerie to marry me regardless of the fact that she is a
spoiled brat who is disrespectful to everybody. I don't really let her drama get
to me even though she is rude everywhere we go.
Her mother and father
spoiled her to death because she is an only child and they let that spoiled
behavior spill over outside of her family. Val is very disrespectful to her
parents because they cater to her and ALL of my friends hate my fiancee' and
tell me that everytime she comes around. She has gotten into a fist fight with
one of my cousins at my family reunion because Valerie says whatever she wants
to say and she told my cousin that her clothes are cheap and that if she would
have married a man with some money instead of a "bum", she could buy some real
Val and I are supposed to get married on March 6th and she asked
my mother to try to make her veil for the wedding out of the veil my mother used
for her wedding. When Val came to my mother's house with her best friend to see
the veil, I wasn't there and she didn't know that I was coming there for
something else. When I pulled up, I could hear her from outside screaming at my
mother about something, she was cursing using all kinds of words that I know
hurt my mother because my mother is a church going woman and has never cursed a
day in her life.
I was going around the back of the house to sneak into
the back so that I could listen, but when I got into the house from the back, my
mother was sitting in her wheelchair crying and Valerie and her best friend were
walking out the front door. Her friend was telling her to calm down and Val was
saying (so my moms could hear it) that she "didn't like that ugly $hit and if
that CRIPPLE &itch couldn't do what she wanted her to do, then she shouldn't
have volunteered to do it!"
Right then and there, I knew that the wedding
was over and I ran out to the car to confront her and told her that she can have
her next mother-in-law make her veil because I'm not marrying any woman who
treats my mother that way. She tried to tell me that she was just upset, but for
the first time, I really saw how badly she treats people and I don't feel bad
about cancelling the wedding.
Should I try to work this out, or let
everything stay as it is?
No, I don't think you did the wrong thing. You did what was right
for YOU and you definitely lasted a lot longer than I would have. Parents who
spoil their children and allow them to be disrespectful to them, don't account
for the fact that those dysfunctional a$$ed children grow up to be
dysfunctional, disrespectful a$$ed adults.
I'm amazed that you allowed
this chick to be disrespectful to everybody, including you, but you were
surprised that she was disrespectful to your mother... WHY, when you clearly
said that she doesn't respect her own parents?
Trust me, if she treated
your mother like that when she didn't know that you were around, it wasn't the
first time, and wouldn't have been the last. Just be happy to get away from that
childish hoe and go on about the business of trying to find a respectful bride
because this chick clearly isn't worth it.
If you want advice from Miss
Pearl, send me an email to: email@example.com