Wednesday, October 3rd - Dear Miss Pearl...

Dear Miss Pearl,

I'm 29 years old and I'm engaged to Valerie, who is 26 years old. I asked Valerie to marry me regardless of the fact that she is a spoiled brat who is disrespectful to everybody. I don't really let her drama get to me even though she is rude everywhere we go.

Her mother and father spoiled her to death because she is an only child and they let that spoiled behavior spill over outside of her family. Val is very disrespectful to her parents because they cater to her and ALL of my friends hate my fiancee' and tell me that everytime she comes around. She has gotten into a fist fight with one of my cousins at my family reunion because Valerie says whatever she wants to say and she told my cousin that her clothes are cheap and that if she would have married a man with some money instead of a "bum", she could buy some real clothes.

Val and I are supposed to get married on March 6th and she asked my mother to try to make her veil for the wedding out of the veil my mother used for her wedding. When Val came to my mother's house with her best friend to see the veil, I wasn't there and she didn't know that I was coming there for something else. When I pulled up, I could hear her from outside screaming at my mother about something, she was cursing using all kinds of words that I know hurt my mother because my mother is a church going woman and has never cursed a day in her life.

I was going around the back of the house to sneak into the back so that I could listen, but when I got into the house from the back, my mother was sitting in her wheelchair crying and Valerie and her best friend were walking out the front door. Her friend was telling her to calm down and Val was saying (so my moms could hear it) that she "didn't like that ugly $hit and if that CRIPPLE &itch couldn't do what she wanted her to do, then she shouldn't have volunteered to do it!"

Right then and there, I knew that the wedding was over and I ran out to the car to confront her and told her that she can have her next mother-in-law make her veil because I'm not marrying any woman who treats my mother that way. She tried to tell me that she was just upset, but for the first time, I really saw how badly she treats people and I don't feel bad about cancelling the wedding.

Should I try to work this out, or let everything stay as it is?

Coren
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Dear Coren,

No, I don't think you did the wrong thing. You did what was right for YOU and you definitely lasted a lot longer than I would have. Parents who spoil their children and allow them to be disrespectful to them, don't account for the fact that those dysfunctional a$$ed children grow up to be dysfunctional, disrespectful a$$ed adults.

I'm amazed that you allowed this chick to be disrespectful to everybody, including you, but you were surprised that she was disrespectful to your mother... WHY, when you clearly said that she doesn't respect her own parents?

Trust me, if she treated your mother like that when she didn't know that you were around, it wasn't the first time, and wouldn't have been the last. Just be happy to get away from that childish hoe and go on about the business of trying to find a respectful bride because this chick clearly isn't worth it.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: misspearlswindow@yahoo.com