Dear Miss Pearl,
Two weeks ago, I found a letter on my wife's computer
that she wrote to another dude. The dude is her ex-boyfriend who she told me
that she wasn't in love with anymore. I have never met the dude, but I noticed a
few years ago that her friends would make little comments about him in a way
that made me think that there was still some feelings for him
I asked her several times and she said no, and even though I
didn't believe it deep down. I couldn't let it bother me because like she said,
he is in the military and can't be a factor even if she was still in love with
Well, Miss Pearl, I read the letter and my wife was talking about
the time they spent together in Mississippi during Thanksgiving and my wife did
go to Mississippi over the holiday and i wasnt there.
In the letter, she
was saying that life was "complicated" and that there were children involved (we
have three kids under 10) and then she went on about how she didn't expect "one
night" to make her so confused.
I confronted her about the letter and she
swore that nothing was up and that they are just friends. I told her that I was
going to call her sister's husband to see if she really was there with them for
Thanksgiving and when i acted like I called him on the phone, she was yelling in
the background trying to make "him" lie for her.
I look at this woman in
a whole new light, but she says that I'm crazy.
Am I wrong for feeling
the way I feel? Did I take the letter
going to say that your wife slept with this guy or anything because I don't
really know - but from the sound of this letter, if that hoe HASN"T slept with
him, she's on the way!
There is no reason for a married person to be
sending anyone a letter talking about NOTHIN' in their marriage is "complicated"
- how the hell are your three children and MARRIAGE considered a
You need to man up and get ahold of your household
because if your wife is even thinking about having a long distance affair, then
there may be something she's missing at home. But whether she's thinking about
having a short term physical affair or a long distance emotional affair, it's
still wrong because she's married!
The ball is in your court, you and
your wife need to have a sit down and she needs to get honest about whatever she
has going on with this guy.
You have to make up your mind about what you
want to do about your marriage and your wife needs to get honest -
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org