Dear Miss Pearl,
I began dating a woman I'll call Sydney about 11 months ago. She is a good girl
and does a lot of nice things for me. The only problem we really have is that
she is extremely jealous. If I go somewhere, she calls 5 times and doesn't have
anything to say, I can tell that she is just calling to see if I am with someone
My friends laugh at me because we can't even get together for a
drink without her either calling or "popping up" to ask me something. I put up
with a lot of her ways because she a great woman other than this issue, but the
problem is, what may appear to be a small issue for most people has become a
huge issue for me.
Sydney has called my female co-workers when they have
called my work cell phone about work related issues and told them not to call me
anymore. She ran into a woman from my office that she met at one of my office
parties and told her that she was "lucky that she didn't beat her ass at the
party" for dancing with me. When this older, white woman laughed and thought she
was joking, she told her, "Bitch, I'm serious!" The lady was so scared that she
told the boss who asked me to speak with Sydney about it because the co-worker
was intimidated about dealing with me after that.
The last straw for me
came when I came home and Sydney had been to my apartment and gone through all
of my photo albums and high school and college memory books and ripped up every
picture of every woman I ever dated, talked to, or took a picture with. I
couldn't believe it. Right then I called her and told her that I was changing my
locks and wanted her out of my life for good.
She has called begging me
to take her back, but I'm done. My memories and keepsakes from the past were
MINE and I am infuriated that she took it upon herself to destroy my prom
picture from 16 years ago. Those pictures came from my mother's house after my
mom passed away and I don't see why she felt the need to destroy them. She says
that I have no reason to have pictures of my prom or ex-girlfriends, but I look
at it as photos from my past that I want to keep just like she wants to keep
pictures of her best friend's 8th birthday party.
Am I wrong for not
wanting to be with her? Her friends say that I should be more understanding of
her because she was cheated on and I haven't tried to understand her situation.
I say, I have dealt with this for 1 year and I understand all I need to
Who is right?
You are! You are under no obligation to stay with a woman who can't
trust you to go into the bathroom and wranch off before you give her a hit
without peeping through the bathroom keyhole to make sure that you aren't
"inappropriately" touching YOURSELF before you touch her!
memories are you own, and I have never understood weak women who are intimidated
by their boyfriends husbands holding on to their own memories. Why are you
normal for wanting to hold on to a photo of your little league team championship
win from 8th grade, but there is something wrong with holding on pictures of the
girl you went to the prom with that same year?
Women need to get over
that bull$hit, seriously! Besides that, this broad has only been in your life
for a YEAR and that's HARDLY enough time to feel comfortable destroying 16 years
of YOUR past.
You did the right thing - let that hoe go and keep on
If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org