Wednesday, February 27th - Dear Miss Pearl...

Miss Pearl,

I am on the brink of divorce and I’m looking to you for this last advice about my marriage before I walk away. Most of the time, it is the woman who has problems with the in-laws, but for me, it is just the opposite. It is my wife’s mother. She is ALWAYS in our business telling my wife how to run this house and our marriage.

A little history on us, we dated for about 2 years, was engaged for 1 year and we have been married for 2 years. Before me and Angela got married, Ruthie was always the nicest person in the world. She would cook dinner and bring it over for us to eat, she would tell me to bring my laundry by her house so that she could wash it for me, she would even call me and tell me to stop by her house on my way home from work to pick up dinner and lunch for the next day. (Me and Angela didn’t live together at that time)

After we got married, all of that changed. Ruthie calls our house at least 10 times a day. If Angie and I get into an argument, she calls my cell phone screaming at me for things she shouldn’t even know about. My wife calls her mother for advice on every little thing that goes on in our house and Ruthie’s word is law. Recently, we were decorating our bedroom and Angela and I had agreed on my favorite colors mixed with her favorite colors. We matched everything up and I let my wife go out to make the purchases based upon the colors we selected. When I came back in town, my master bedroom was pink and purple! I am still furious because my wife told me that RUTHIE said that a woman’s bedroom is supposed to reflect who SHE is and not the husband. What kind of shit is that, Miss Pearl? I’m this close to leaving my wife.

Married to Mother – in – Law
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Dear Married,

Ruthie needs to tend to her own gat damn business and Angela needs to grow the hell up! The signs leading to this shit could be seen a mile away, but you were a man reaping the benefits of having TWO women in your life (not to mention your own mother) catering to your every need, so you were blinded by the gettings, baby.

The problem you have now is, you have created a monster in Ruthie by not putting your foot down to her controlling behavior from day one. It’s going to be really hard for you to convince Ruthie that she needs to mind her own gat damn business, but it’s going to be even harder to convince your wife that she is more a wife than a daughter these days.

Ruthie stepped WAY over the line when she decided that she was going to change your bedroom to suit HER, and your wife was absolutely spineless to agree to that shit. Angie ain’t ready to be married to a strong, black man with his own agenda in my opinion, and unfortunately, unless someone OUTSIDE of your marriage can convince her that it’s time to become more of a wife, and less a dutiful DAUGHTER… she’s not going to change and your marriage won’t survive the end of the year.

Good luck, baby. Holla at me and let me know what happens.

Here’s a few lemon heads for you and leave these moth balls on your nightstand so when Ruthie’s nosey ass is at your house, they’ll choke her ridiculous ass to death.

If you want advice from Miss Pearl, send me an email to misspearlswindow@yahoo.com