Dear Miss Pearl,
I'm trying to figure out if my 19 year old son is going
to be a DL brother. Herschel has a girlfriend and has always had one, but I
realize that they are growing further and further apart. His girlfriend, who
used to come over all the time, never comes around anymore and when she calls,
the first thing she asks is, "Is he with "Derk?"
Derk is my son's best
friend who spends the night every weekend, they never bring girls around and
Derk always says that he's "single" when I ask if he has a girlfriend. One time,
I picked up the home phone and heard a man's voice, but hung up when I realized
that my son was on the phone, when he walked through the kitchen, I asked, "Who
have you been on the phone with for two hours, Tasha?" and he said yes, but I
KNOW that he was talking to another guy.
I walked in his room about 2 am
to ask him to take the trash out to the curb and when he cracked his door open,
I could see him a guy on his video chat sitting there with no shirt on. Now he
has started hanging out with this questionable crew of friends, one who wears
blue contacts and really gives me a fem vibe.
I'm trying to figure out if
my son is DL or not because I don't want that for him. I want to ask him, but my
friend says that I should keep quiet because if he wanted me to know, he would
tell me. But I just have to know.
Is there a way to find out if my son is
gay or not without asking?
First of all, if you wanted a boy, then you shouldn't have named
him Herschel and secondly, I'm not sure why you NEED to know if he's gay or not,
and I'm REALLY not sure why you're discussing your son's supposed sexuality with
your friends and not him. But if you feel like you absolutely NEED to know, then
ask him, if he doesn't tell you - then he doesn't WANT you to know, mama!