Dear Miss Pearl,
I'm trying to figure out if my 19 year old son is going
to be a DL brother. Herschel has a girlfriend and has always had one, but I
realize that they are growing further and further apart. His girlfriend, who
used to come over all the time, never comes around anymore and when she calls,
the first thing she asks is, "Is he with "Derk?"
Derk is my son's best
friend who spends the night every weekend, they never bring girls around and
Derk always says that he's "single" when I ask if he has a girlfriend. One time,
I picked up the home phone and heard a man's voice, but hung up when I realized
that my son was on the phone, when he walked through the kitchen, I asked, "Who
have you been on the phone with for two hours, Tasha?" and he said yes, but I
KNOW that he was talking to another guy.
I walked in his room about 2 am
to ask him to take the trash out to the curb and when he cracked his door open,
I could see him a guy on his video chat sitting there with no shirt on. Now he
has started hanging out with this questionable crew of friends, one who wears
blue contacts and really gives me a fem vibe.
I'm trying to figure out if
my son is DL or not because I don't want that for him. I want to ask him, but my
friend says that I should keep quiet because if he wanted me to know, he would
tell me. But I just have to know.
Is there a way to find out if my son is
gay or not without asking?
Trudi
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Dear
Trudi,
First of all, if you wanted a boy, then you shouldn't have named
him Herschel and secondly, I'm not sure why you NEED to know if he's gay or not,
and I'm REALLY not sure why you're discussing your son's supposed sexuality with
your friends and not him. But if you feel like you absolutely NEED to know, then
ask him, if he doesn't tell you - then he doesn't WANT you to know, mama!
CTFU Pearl!
ReplyDeleteI don't think it's wrong to want to know your child's sexual preference. If you know then you are prepared for any situation especially with all the hate crimes that happen in today's world. Just sit him down & talk with him, but don't force him to tell you anything. Simply have a loving convo with him and let him know that he can open up to you whenever he's ready.
With that name? Hell yeah.
ReplyDeleteAre you afraid to ask him because you don't like gay people? Maybe you said negative things and your son feel you won't like him so he is hiding his true self.
Trudi,
ReplyDeleteOk, he is your son but he has his own life to live. U cant find something to do to keep U busy. As long as he is NOT doing anything illegal let the man enjoy his life w/out U nagging him. Should he want U 2 know something about his personal life he will let U know when he wants to.
Trudi instead of a son, you've gained a daughter.
ReplyDeleteThis is ridiculous. My guess is that you gave birth and raised your son. So I am confused as to why you would even have to ask. But most of all, once you find out, what difference will it make? It kills me that you would need advice on how to find out what your son does in his private life. If Herschel was a daughter, with a female best friend spending a night every weekend(also single), there would be no question. The best source is your son.
ReplyDeleteGirl maybe he confused , just talk to him . Where is his daddy?
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